I'm staying with the father of my 2 children and we have an awful history so I have a problem trusting him. So now he has changed a lot since and he wants to marry me. He does horrible things sometimes like asking photos of girls vaginas and stuff, and recently a colleague gave him a jersey. It's a woman and I didn't like that. So I told him not to wear the jersey but he did. So I decided to destroy it and now he doesn't eat the food I cooked and he is upset that I did that to his jersey. Was I wrong doing that? And is he cheating on me ? Please help

Drama, drama, drama... Do your kids have to witness this drama? Neither one of you are putting the children first by what you have described. What is the point of staying together when there is no one in the relationship attempting to get along? Break up and move on.