Hi, I'm 17 and Legitimately I feel nothing but pressure, occasional pain and it just leads to irritation. While I can become really easily aroused, that only happens from non-sexual situations (foreplay does not help at all) & as soon as sex begins I lose all natural lubrication, and all interest in the situation.

I get nothing out of penetration or clitoral stimulation. It doesn't matter the guy, his size or skill, the situation, location, nothing.

Fingering does nothing for me either fake moan to make the guy not feel bad, but its all fake and I can't even fake orgasm because its too hard to fake it that much

I have never been able to connect with partners on a sexual or pleasurable level and its ruined all of my relationships. Not to mention sex is supposed to be good for mental and emotional health, but it only makes me feel used, lifeless and broken.

I'm sick of something this ridiculous getting in the way of my life.

Then don't do it.

It's a natural thing to do and if it doesn't come naturally to me there's obviously something wrong if your not going to help then don't comment

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Originally Posted by eminemloverx3

its a natural thing to do and if it doesnt come naturally to me theres obviously something wrong if your not goin to help then dont comment

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No, it is NOT a natural thing to do, not at 17. Emotional maturity, empathy, and mental health are implicit in sexual satisfaction.

Maybe you are autistic?

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

No, it is NOT a natural thing to do, not at 17. Emotional maturity, empathy, and mental health are implicit in sexual satisfaction.

Maybe you are autistic?

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I feel emotionally and physically ready to do things with a partners so... and no I'm not autistic ?

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Originally Posted by eminemloverx3

i feel emotionally and physically ready to do things with a partners so... and no im not autistic ?

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Since sex is not enjoyable for you, I doubt very much that you are emotionally and physically ready -- like I said, not at 17.

Are you in school? Do you live with your family?

Is having sex something your peer group is doing and you want to keep up?

How do you get along in general with peers and adults? Do they annoy or frustrate you a lot?

First let me say you are not unique. There are other women who do not get pleasure from intercourse or foreplay. Part of this may be due to your partners lack of skill, part may be due to physical issues on your part.

The problem here is your age. Because you are so young, it may be difficult to find a medical practitioner who will work with you to find the problem. My suggestion is to wait a year or so until you reach adulthood when you can talk to someone who can work with you on this. But the important thing for you to understand now is that you are not a freak, there is nothing totally abnormal about you. But you do have a problem that other women have and you need to seek help in dealing with it.

Some people get enjoyment out of just being in love and together. Hugging, snuggling, kissing without sex is normal for some. There is intimacy without sex, do don't let it get in the way. Be happy the way you want to be. Not having an s/o is not the end of the world.

Perhaps you just haven't found the right person to have that earth shattering orgasm with