My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a month now but have been talking for about 5 months. This past week has pushed us both to our limits. I recently found out that I had type 1 herpes along with chlamydia. He went to go get checked after I found this out and he came back negative for both. Before this, we both had no idea who the carrier was because we both have had plenty sex partners in the past. We are at a point now that he keeps bringing up my past and asking more questions about it. He almost always ends up insulting me and always says what is on his mind, which is usually negative. We both love each other, although, it seems I am the only one who has love in this relationship at the moment. He is actually the first person I have fallen in love with (I'm 21). I just need to know if I should keep telling him the truth about my past or to tell him it is none of his business and that is not who I am anymore.
I want a healthy relationship, but I don't want to keep feeling sorry and negative about myself.

Had the same thing happen to me a couple of years back. He will ask loads of questions no matter what you say to him because he thinks it will help but what will happen is it will stick in his head for a long time. Me and my girlfriend split for a couple of months and she slept with someone and I didn't and it broke me. I asked loads of questions in detail and I ended up thinking about it for a year and still hate it. We have broken up now and I still hate the fact what she did. You have to be crule to be kind sometimes and if I was you I would just say we need to draw aline under what has happened and move on or there is no point.
Hope that help a little.

I don't see a lot of hope for this relationship. He is not going to get over the feeling that you should have been checked for Herpes before you had sex with him. He could still have it and not be testing positive yet, although usually he would before 2 weeks. Not all tests are conclusive as well. A blood test would be most accurate.

Your past relationships are none of his business except in a general sense of them being part of who you are, but now your medical present is too entangled in the past, and it's understandable that he is conflicted (although he should just make up his mind to accept or leave, not put you down).

Again - I'd advise you both to move on while it's still early.

Let him go because he can't let go.

Let him know how you feel. Tell him you are getting offended. If he really cares, he would straighten up his attitude.

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Originally Posted by niallover101

let him know how you feel. tell him you are getting offended. if he really cares, he would straighten up his attitude.

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You are only 14 and I suspect don't know enough about her situation, about STDs, and about adult relationships to be giving out advice. 'If he really cares he would straighten up' is juvenile and meaningless.

Thanks everyone! He ended up coming over the next morning and apologizing. He said he was out of line and that he would leave my past in the past where it belongs. Thanks for all the support and advice though! Really helped!