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  • Jun 9, 2013, 02:26 PM
    britt_nayy101
    I'm a teen and I'm in love with a guy who has a baby.
    My neighbor has 2 grandsons that are my age (16) I have liked the younger one Shane since I've met him when I was 5. Nothing ever really happened. So they quit coming over for about a year, don't know why though. But during this spring break (2013) Shane messaged me on Facebook and told me that him and his baby (3 months old) and baby momma were at his grandmothers (my neighbor). So of course I told him that I wanted to go see his baby so I did. I held the baby and everything gave Shane a hug and left.

    That night Shane had texted me and we started talking about how we have always liked each other since we were little. Its been about 2 months since we started texting and now we are "talking". But I can't see him because my mom doesn't want me dating someone who has a baby. Which is kind of understandable but I'm in love with him and she doesn't get that and I can't just drop him. I want to be with him but I want my mom to approve but I know she's not ever going to so what should I do? Keep it away from her? Or tell him I can't be with him? (which I don't want to do!! )
  • Jun 9, 2013, 02:39 PM
    teacherjenn4
    You aren't in love. You saw each other once in a year. So, you are texting buddies. He has a baby. You're 16. Why would you want to be involved with someone who already has a baby mama?
  • Jun 9, 2013, 02:48 PM
    talaniman
    Where is his baby mama? Is he cheating on her? I say do as your mother says and cut this triangle drama out.
  • Jun 10, 2013, 06:06 AM
    Oliver2011
    You know I originally posted - "Hopefully Shane has learned to say yes to Mr. Condom". Screw that. A 16 year old is not responsible enough to take care of a child. So hopefully Shane has learned the importance of abstaining until the time comes where he can be responsible for his own children. Meaning he doesn't have to rely on his parents, grandparents, or the state to raise his child.
  • Jun 10, 2013, 07:53 PM
    britt_nayy101
    No, he isn't cheating on her. They aren't together anymore. He works all day to support his baby. He's a really good guy he's not like a "punk". Gives all his money to the baby and the left over money he helps his mom pay the bills. He's responsible (even though it might seem like it after having a baby so young)
  • Jun 11, 2013, 04:44 AM
    Oliver2011
    Then I hope he has in fact learned to say yes to Mr. Condom.

    I would like to see the statistics of all the babies born to teenagers as far as what percentage go to college, jail, have kids young themselves, are a burden to society, etc.

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