My husband and I have been married 30 years. 15 years ago, I suspected infidelity with a co-worker but had no proof. It lasted a few years. I recently discovered that he has been texting a 25-yr-old girl. He is 72. I started checking the phone bill and discovered that he has been sending from 60 to 70 texts per day. The same for her. I have been unable to find his cell phone when he is asleep and he keeps it with him at all times.

Finally I asked him about the texting and he said that she is teaching him Spanish (she is not Hispanic). He said she has a medical condition that she discusses with him. I asked him to let me see the text messages but he refused. I told him I think it would be best if we go our separate ways. He said he loves me and swears there is nothing more than just communicating on a father-daughter basis. He said he would do nothing to jeopardize our relationship.

I was born, but not yesterday. He goes for walks late at night and the texts are occurring during those times. He left one evening and did not come home until 1:30 in the morning. During the time he was gone, there were no texts recorded. I don't think I need to ask what is going on but I am asking anyway.

Who knows what he is doing with this young lady, but if he cheated once, IMO he would do it again. What he is doing is inappropriate. As long as you have been married, you know your man enough to know if he is cheating. Has his sex life with you changed?