Why does this guy feel he cannot talk to me now he has a girl friend?
Hi, I have been chatting to an Italian guy on line who I met on a dating site, for 4 years now, who lives in the UK. We don't live very close, so have never met, his choice more than mine as he has had bad experiences with long distance relationships in the past. Over the years and chatting several times a week on line, we got to know each other very well, having a laugh and sharing similar interests etc in fact we would often talk for several hours. We have also chatted via web cam so we knew exactly what each other looked like. Sometimes the conversations would become quite flirtatious instigated by him and our sense of humor being similar meant we would bounce of each other.
Over this time I have become very attracted to him both physically and in an emotional way, he became a friend who I could talk to about anything, and he did too. From May last year until March this year he stopped going on line and then after 10 months he reappeared and started chatting again, he was messaging me first every time. After a few chats he began to get flirtatious again until one day he said he would have to stop chatting as he felt guilty due to the fact he had a girl friend, which he had told me about when we started chatting again. I asked why we couldn't continue as friends and keep things platonic but he said he gets carried away when chatting to me and imagines 'things' as he put it - meaning that he imagines we are being intimate and this makes him feel guilty. He then said that this meant that I was still attractive sexually.
My question is, if he has a girl friend and he is happy with her, then surely he could continue to talk to me as a friend and not get carried away and imagining things that we might do together in a sexual way. So is he feeling more for me than he is letting on because I am quite confused to be honest? Any opinion would be of a great help so I can get my head around this, thank you.