Me and my boyfriend were together for over two years, and he broke up with me two months ago because he fell out of love. I really want him back because he makes me so happy and I love him to bits. He's too stubborn to listen to me and his friends, because we all know he does actually love me. I've tried to move on, tried dating, but it doesn't work. I just want him. Please help.

What did you do to make him fall in love with you in the first place? Think long and hard about that and go from there. A break up is not a death sentence for love. I'm not saying it's going to happen, but, you need to figure out what worked in the first place and go from there. There are always two sides. Did you guys effectively communicate when there were problems? In my experience, communication is key. If partners can resolve problems verbally, it saves us from heart break later.

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Originally Posted by mrpines

What did you do to make him fall in love with you in the first place? Think long and hard about that and go from there. A break up is not a death sentence for love. I'm not saying it's going to happen, but, you need to figure out what worked in the first place and go from there. There are always two sides. Did you guys effectively communicate when there were problems? In my experience, communication is key. If partners can resolve problems verbally, it saves us from heart break later.

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Well, we were both each others first everything, first love, even first kiss, etc.
We got together after a few days, or a week of even knowing each other. We saw each other constantly, every day. But in the past two months I've seen him twice. I'm hoping to be friends with him again, and then try again. But I'm scared that whilst I'm trying to be friends, he will find someone else. I just need him, but he's so stubborn. What do you mean by communication being key? Do you mean I should carry on talking/texting him, etc?

Forget him. You can't make someone love you. It actually sounds to me like you either did something to piss him off or he found someone else. Move on and find someone else yourself.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Forget him. You can't make someone love you. It actually sounds to me like you either did something to piss him off or he found someone else. Move on and find someone else yourself.

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If only it was that easy. No, I didn't piss him off, and he definitely hasn't found someone else. He's a really shy person and isn't like that anyway. He just said he fell out of love and doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment.

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Originally Posted by Yeahitssian

Well, we were both each others first everything, first love, even first kiss, etc.
We got together after a few days, or a week of even knowing each other. We saw each other constantly, every day. But in the past two months I've seen him twice. I'm hoping to be friends with him again, and then try again. But I'm scared that whilst I'm trying to be friends, he will find someone else. I just need him, but he's so stubborn. What do you mean by communication being key? Do you mean I should carry on talking/texting him, etc?

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I see. Communicating your feelings. Have you told him how you felt about not seeing him? Not in a needy way, just casually "Hey, where have you been, I miss seeing you." Something along those lines.

He may find someone else, but you just said you're trying to be friends. You need to figure out exactly what you want then take action.

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Originally Posted by mrpines

I see. Communicating your feelings. Have you told him how you felt about not seeing him? Not in a needy way, just casually "Hey, where have you been, I miss seeing you." Something along those lines.

He may find someone else, but you just said you're trying to be friends. You need to figure out exactly what you want then take action.

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Yeah he knows that, I've told him many times.
And I meant I wanted to be friends and start over, like when we first got together. Such as being friends then becoming something more.
I just can't bare to think of him with someone else. He means so much to me and I love him a lot even after two months of being split.

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Originally Posted by Yeahitssian

Yeah he knows that, I've told him many times.
And I meant I wanted to be friends and start over, like when we first got together. Such as being friends then becoming something more.
I just can't bare to think of him with someone else. He means so much to me and I love him a lot even after two months of being split.

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Give it time. I truly believe if people are meant to be together, they will.

Although know if you're going to be friends first, do not show signs of jealousy. Be a friend. If you love him as much as you say you do, then be there for him as a FRIEND. He may see he really cares about you and this could grow to what you ultimately want.