Hi every body,
It’s my first question and I hope any body or some body can help me out of it.
I live with my BF for about a year now and five month’s ago my BF’s friend came to stay with us and look for job in the same city. At first he told that as soon as he gets a job, he will rent his own apartment. But he keeps changing his job and now he never even speaks about renting an apartment for himself, more over he is not ready to contribute to house hold expenditure. It’s me and my BF doing every thing.
I have tried to talk about this with my BF, but he keeps saying that, I’m selfish and not helping minded. And this conversation ends with a big fight. So, now I don’t speak about this matter as I’m scared that it might create misunderstand between me and my BF.
But I still want to get this guy out of my house as he is making a fool of my BF. I want to have my privacy back. Please HELP!! :confused: :(

Hello :) he is not making a fool out of your boyfriend.. your boyfriend is making a fool out of himself... if that's the case he may not even see it like that he may just think he is helping a friend...
But know this.. its not just his friends fault but also your boyfriends.. you have vocied your vies on this.. and he has called you selfish.. which in my view is pretty harsh.. you'll have to be strong and make a stand.. say OK fine if you want him here that is great but I'm sure as hell not paying for him.. and then I guess its time for you boyfriend to make a choice.. friend or you..

All relationships have one issue or another.. and this is something you guys have to work out.. I think you and your boyfriend should sit down and talk about it.. calmly.. and never ever be scared to talk to your boyfriend because your scared about him getting upset.. . he doesn't seem to care about how you feel about this.. I never believe in keeping your mouth shut for the peace.. because at the end of the day its going to come out one way or another.. best to let it come out on your terms :)

Anyway good luck with this.. I hope it works out

I agree with talking calmly and honestly. A private talk with his friend may be in order, but they both should know how you feel. If he is a friend he will do the right thing. If not maybe this relationship isn't as strong as you think and needs work in a few areas. Either way you don't have to smile in anyone's face like your happy with his situation.

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Originally Posted by mimitata

Hi every body,
It’s my first question and I hope any body or some body can help me out of it.
I live with my BF for about a year now and five month’s ago my BF’s friend came to stay with us and look for job in the same city. At first he told that as soon as he gets a job, he will rent his own apartment. But he keeps changing his job and now he never even speaks about renting an apartment for himself, more over he is not ready to contribute to house hold expenditure. It’s me and my BF doing every thing.
I have tried to talk about this with my BF, but he keeps saying that, I’m selfish and not helping minded. And this conversation ends with a big fight. So, now I don’t speak about this matter as I’m scared that it might create misunderstand between me and my BF.
But I still wana get this guy out of my house as he is making a fool of my BF. I want to have my privacy back. Please HELP!!!!!!!!! :confused: :(

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Is his name Dupree? Get him a girlfriend with a apartment.

In the end, he knows what is going on, and it appears he wants his friend in the home more than he really cares what you think.

Remember these are signs of more to come, latter in the relationship as his demands and what he wants will hold piority over other things,

But yes, try to talk to him, try to explain to him, but in the end, it may be to ask him who he would rather live with him or you, since he appears to be making that choice by not caring for your feelings