I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year and he recently asked me to move in with him. We've had a great sex life until about 4-5 weeks ago. He has a female "best friend" that he's admitted to having feelings for and thought about having a relationship with her but she moved in with her current boyfriend and kept it a secret from him for months in fear it would hurt him... He kept me a secret from her as well. I have not met this "best friend" and he comes up with excuses why I can not meet her. Since she recently lost her job he helps her financially even though she is in a relationship of her own. He's also helped her with her résumé and is helping her find work. I'm planning to relocate so I'm apply for jobs near him as well and have asked him for help but he's always preoccupied. Lately he hasn't wanted to be intimate and fool around so I brought it to his attention which caused an argument. I don't want to compete with another woman and make a major change in my life by moving in with a man that is emotionally attached to another woman. I have not mentioned to him my concern about the "best friend" and not sure if I should...

There are too many issues happening for you to make any life changes that you will regret later. He needs to be able to discuss things openly and honestly. If he can't, move along since you could do better. You don't need to be in a relationship where you have to share him.

I hope you dumped this guy... He seems like an . No boyfriend should have a female "bestfriend" that he hides... are you dumb?