Ask Me Help Desk - I'm an Arabic girl and I'm in love with a British married man.

Hi, I'm an Arabian girl, I'm in love with a British man. He is married and his wife delivered after some months from the day that I knew him. Now he is confused because he is in love with his baby, but he told me he still want me and he can't divorce now. I didn't feel the same with any one.

By the way I'm a virgin and he didn't touch me, and he respect my traditions and he know that sex happen only into marriage.

I really have a strong feelings for this man, it didn't happen to me before, even I had experiences. Now he is in love with his baby and he is confused to let his baby or come to me..

And he wants for me to be so much to be his wife. I had experience of 5 years and it didn't work, also experience of 2 and half years and also the same, but with this man there is a strange feeling its controlling my mind and my heart,and he do too. He is sad in his life with his wife cause she made his life so bored.

Because I love him,I'm ready to be against every thing. But sometimes I feel that I'm silly. Please advise what I should do.

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He's married. He won't get a divorce, not ever. You're wasting your time with this man.

What do your "traditions" say about going after a married man? I'm sure that that's not something that's okay. Right?

This man is lying to you. If he was so bored with his wife, she would not have gotten pregnant and had a baby.
He is a married man. Leave him alone. He is never going to leave his wife, but he will end up getting you in bed if you don't wise up and leave him alone.

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Originally Posted by angel119

Hi,I'm an arabian girl,I'm in love with a british man,he is married and his wife delivered after some months from the day that I knew him...I really have a strong feelings for this man,it didn't happen to me before,even I had experiences.,now he is in love with his baby and he is confused to let his baby or come to me...by the way I'm vergin and he didn't touched me and he respect my religion even we are different and he knew that I can make love only into marriage...and he want so much to be his wife,,,pls advice cause I don't know what to do,,I had experience of 5 years and it didn't work ,also experience of 2 and half years and also the same,,but with this man,there is a strange feeling its controlling my mind and my heart,and he do too... Ps:he is sad in his life with his wife cause she made his life so bored.

He is married and unavailable. Find someone who is single. Being the "other woman" is not an attractive title. This relationship will only cause problems and waste your time. Before you know it, he'll have 3 kids and you'll still be waiting for him.

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Originally Posted by angel119

Hi,I'm an arabian girl,I'm in love with a british man,he is married and his wife delivered after some months from the day that I knew him...I really have a strong feelings for this man,it didn't happen to me before,even I had experiences.,now he is in love with his baby and he is confused to let his baby or come to me...by the way I'm vergin and he didn't touched me and he respect my religion even we are different and he knew that I can make love only into marriage...and he want so much to be his wife,,,pls advice cause I don't know what to do,,I had experience of 5 years and it didn't work ,also experience of 2 and half years and also the same,,but with this man,there is a strange feeling its controlling my mind and my heart,and he do too... Ps:he is sad in his life with his wife cause she made his life so bored.

I am first going to address his boredom. That is his problem to work out with his wife. It is not your place to interfere in their marriage which is what you are doing. They have to decide what is best for them, their child, and their marriage.

You need to realize that you are helping this man cheat on his wife. It may not have gotten as far as intercourse, but, if your story is true, he has crossed the line emotionally. I would also bet that your virginity may be intact, but how far have kisses and caresses gone? Is being a virgin when you marry the only part of your religion you obey?

Bluntly, he is a lying cheater. He has pulled you into the mess he is making of his own life and endangering yours. If he will cheat on his wife, with you. He will cheat on you with someone else when you no longer keep him entertained.

Tell this person to go away and work on his marriage. Tell him that you value yourself more than to be used by him. Stop allowing your mind to be clouded by empty words. Do not allow him to become a shield against the thought of looking for someone else.

You have had two relationships that didn't work. I think you may be latching on to this man because you know he isn't available. On a very deep level, you know he is safe because the relationship is over before it began. You don't have to worry about it failing. You are already hurting and mourning the loss.

Let him go and live your life. There is someone out there who is available and wants to build a life with you. Someone who truly loves you and isn't using your feelings to relieve his boredom. Give yourself a chance to find that person.

You are being groomed to be his chick on the side and he is already a lying cheater playing on your feelings of attraction to him. That's what lying cheater do, and they count on lonely females to be dumb enough to fall for the oldest tricks in the book.

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Because I love him, I'm ready to be against every thing.

That's exactly what he wants from you. You being willing to do anything to be with him.

Perhaps he is not having sex with you now, but he will, convince you of that, at some point.

He is not going to leave his wife, you will always be on the side, respect yourself more than, that. If he loves baby, but not wife, he divorces, and visits child and lives with you.

That is what men do, he is lying to you