Hi all,

My problem is that my jealousy is ruining my life. I try not to, but it just takes hold of me and I don't know what to do. I've been with my partner for two years, and I know he loves me very much, but I can't help feeling like he's going to up and leave. He s never gave me any reason to think this. I've never been in a relationship with anyone who has cheated on me.

I get all jealous of him talking to other females, at work or on Facebook. I keep looking at his "friends" on Facebook and thinking who the hell is she and does he fancy her.

Please help. I am not a young girl and could say that's my problem, I'm a woman in my 40 s acting like a teenager.

I think that you should actually sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him if he actually is having a affair, and if he says he's not. Just investigate a bit further. If he says he is, well maybe he's not right for you, even though your 40, you can still go find fish in the sea. Best of luck ;) Hamburgee <3

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Originally Posted by hamburgee

I think that you should actually sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him if he actually is having a affair, and if he says hes not. Just investigate a bit further. If he says he is, well maybe hes not right for you, even though your 40, you can still go find fish in the sea. Best of luck ;) Hamburgee <3

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Deep in my heart , I know he loves me and isn't having an affair... its just in my head . I feel insecure . We are engaged and have been friends for years. Iknow things about his past and I think that s what's making me think this way .

I think u should actually leave him and give him a lesson

My lovely boyfriend still has his exes family on his friends list on Facebook. Should I be worried?? Been together for nearly 2years.

No. Emphatically no.

No, not at all.

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This was my advice,

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I would be insecure too if my relationship began with cheating. I think most people would. That's not a healthy love nor does it make for healthy people. Maybe that's something you work on in yourself and that's a really tough thing to overcome.

I really don't know how you gain confidence and trust in him but you clearly both have flaws to work on because from what you have written he doesn't reassure you and probably doesn't know how his action feed that insecurity and fear. Its hard to grow love and enjoy each other in healthy ways in such a situation of fear, insecurity, and constant jealousy.

I don't even know if this relationship can even stand a dose of honest communications. But that's clearly what's needed

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You say you lost your hubby 3 years ago - did he divorce you or die?
You may be suffering from fear of loss. That needs therapy.

"even though your 40, you can still go find fish in the sea"

So even people over 40 can find happiness? Thank goodness!