Ok so first off my girlfriend just broke up with me yesterday she is 16 and I'm 19 she said she loves me with everything but thinks we should take a break because she says she's deeply in love with me but also has feelings for someone else and she said she still wants to spend forever with me and get married and have a family the whole nine yards but doesn't want to end up hurting me severely for lying about her feelings for another guy and she wants to take some time away from me and have some space to see if she truly loves me and isn't going insane and she has even said that we'll be together again said " I love you" and that those words mean everything to her and wants to make sure those feelings for me are true but yet she has changed her relationship status on face from being in a relationship with me to being in a relationship with the other guy. But she still says she loves me. I'm really confused because she said she wants to maintain contact with me during this break plus she didn't even wait at least a day before changing the relationship status she changed it after just a few hours. Please guys help me out and give me some advice that isn't too mean. Btw she also said she wants to see other people and said we could be together again.

16 is an age at which we still have to forgive so much confusion.
Let her go - she isn't coming back to you, she can't possibly think 'forever' at that age, feelings and loyalties change in a split second.
She isn't lying; she just doesn't know her own feelings.
Plus, let me guess - you are out of high school? That's a guarantee to end a relationship with someone still in school.
16 vs 19 is actually a HUGE gap in so many respects - maturity, plans for careers or jobs or school, ways of looking at things.

Why wouldn't a very young female with no outside experience want to see what else life has to offer? Why would a grown man make plans forever with a young high schoolgirl, that's said she wants to explore her world?

Let her explore guy, and maybe you should be doing the same, and not waiting for her to take you back or be the emotional tampon for when she gets her heart broken. 16 year olds feelings change a lot before she grows up, and he still has two years at home and wants to have her fun. But unfortunately any contact with her will keep YOU from having fun and exploring YOUR world, and you will be miserable at all the fun she will have without you.

Stop ALL contact, and stay off her Facebook. Disappear from her life and be UNavailable for her in always and things, especially text, calls, or emails. Its going to be rough for you, but you keep your dignity, and self respect.

Trust me guy, she was letting you down easy, so move beyond her.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Trust me guy, she was letting you down easy, so move beyond her.

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Tal's exactly right in all he said. Here's some more info for you -- We females have been taught from birth to be nice and to think of the other person's feelings and to say all the things we think the other person wants to hear. We also don't want people to dislike/hate us. She did precisely that "disengaging" conversation with you in order to honor what you two have had together and also (!! ) to keep you from hating her (Heavens, that would be Horrible with a capital H!! )

I too advise you to get on with your life, thinking she will not be in it. If she contacts you or tries to sideline you on the street or at the mall, smile warmly but be unavailable.

Move on. This girl is liking this boy and will not likely come back to you. Have no more contact with her. Find someone who is not in High School, someone in the same stage of life as yourself. Time to let this go.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Why wouldn't a very young female with no outside experience want to see what else life has to offer? Why would a grown man make plans forever with a young high schoolgirl, that's said she wants to explore her world?

Let her explore guy, and maybe you should be doing the same, and not waiting for her to take you back or be the emotional tampon for when she gets her heart broken. 16 year olds feelings change a lot before she grows up, and he still has two years at home and wants to have her fun. But unfortunately any contact with her will keep YOU from having fun and exploring YOUR world, and you will be miserable at all the fun she will have without you.

Stop ALL contact, and stay off her Facebook. Disappear from her life and be UNavailable for her in always and things, especially text, calls, or emails. Its going to be rough for you, but you keep your dignity, and self respect.

Trust me guy, she was letting you down easy, so move beyond her.

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I have an update! Yesterday she called me on Skype out of nowhere to see how I was doing and how my day was and we just talked small talk for about a half hour. She said she called to check up on me because she hasn't talked to me in a week ( when I decided to not talk to her until she contacted me.) she told me about her academics and her family and she mentioned the guy she left me for twice but nothing too bad. Does this mean she is starting to miss me and want me back? She had to go to take care if her suck sister and asked if I would be on Skype later and I said maybe, I'm not sure. It seems she wants to talk to me about something but I'm not sure.

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Does this mean she is starting to miss me and want me back?

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No. She is just making sure you aren't mad at her.

Now, why did you break No Contact??

Because she called me

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because she called me

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You weren't supposed to answer. Now you start all over again. NO contact.

Will this bring her back?

NO, but it keeps you from being from being full of false hope of her coming back. No contact also keeps you from being her emotional tampon which is torture for a person who just got dumped, and stops the healing process from starting.

This won't bring her back but it will keep you from making an idiot of yourself and get over her. This girl is young. She will keep you hanging around as long as you hang around. She just wants to know you're not mad at her. Do not break no contact.