Hey I'm 21 yrs old girl. I don't know what's wrong in my post as I am posting it 3rd time but not getting any response from your side. Please help me.

I had my break up few months before. He left me and I suffered a lot. So to divert my mind I started chatting with unknown guys on Yahoo. Since last 2 weeks I am chatting with a guy. We both became good friends. He asked for my number. After a lot of request from his side I gave my contact number. And since then we used to talk on phone whole night. I told him everything clearly about my past and even said to him that now I won't get into these girlfriend boyfriend relations as it hurts a lot.

We both shared our pics. He is very much good looking... much better as compared to me. He proposed me 2 days before and asked for a meet, but I am scared to meet him as I feel he won't like me after seeing me in real and then he won't talk to me because pics are mostly good than reality and my pics usually come good than what I am in actual. I am of wheatish color but looking fair in that pic. I feel may be he is impressed by my pic but after looking at me in reality he'll reject me. I am very much depressed. Although I have accepted his proposal and now I am not getting what to do. He is asking me to meet within 2-3 days. What should I do?

I don't want to leave him. I've got feelings for him now. Even I have told him about this problem of mine that I don't deserve you but he said stupid this doesn't matters for me because he has seen me in the pic.

Please suggests me what to do

Maybe your posts are being removed for using texting words, or for being duplicates, I don't know.
You chose a picture that made you look really good - nothing wrong with that, as long as it's you and not more than about a year old.
So go meet the guy. If you can't handle possible rejection, then stop all this foolishness.
It's called taking responsibility for your actions.
Maybe he posted a picture that makes him look better too.
What are the odds that two people will like each other anyway? Not high, so that's why you have friends in person, and they have friends, and you meet more people that way, and it's much more real.

No I saw him on web cam also.. he is really handsome...
I am not getting if he loves me truly or not.. although he is saying that he'll marry me.. but sometimes I feel that he is so good lukng so he might be flirting with me... cause when he calls me in the night he just used to talk about kiss.. smooch and sex... whole day he never calls me in the night we talk... wen I said him that you do such type of talks with me he said OK will never do if you feel so... and so I said no no you can do.. nd he again started..
Please suggest me something

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Maybe your posts are being removed for using texting words, or for being duplicates, I don't know.
You chose a picture that made you look really good - nothing wrong with that, as long as it's you and not more than about a year old.
So go meet the guy. If you can't handle possible rejection, then stop all this foolishness.
It's called taking responsibility for your actions.
Maybe he posted a picture that makes him look better too.
What are the odds that two people will like each other anyway? Not high, so that's why you have friends in person, and they have friends, and you meet more people that way, and it's much more real.

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He IS just flirting. Love is not possible when you have never even met in person. Love takes time and lots of good times and tough times. It is mutual respect and admiration and compromise. Proposals of marriage mean nothing. He might just want sex and then dump you. Who knows? Like I said - go meet him or stop all this internet dating.

I suspect that he is married or has a girlfriend and that's why he ignores you all day, unless he has a busy job - how would we know? You should not believe ANYTHING online.
And when you do meet, you do it mid-day in a public place.
You talk.
You can be as romantic as you want, as long as you also find out important facts and eventually prove them - who he is, where he lives and works, is he married or not, or a criminal. And you take it slowly so you can also find out if he has other women he's dating, and so on! Good grief, this should all be obvious.
I think you need a best friend who can help you.

Oh - and don't be so desperate that you complain about sex talk only and then when he says he'll stop, you say OK.

Hey thank u so much... actually all of my friends are quite conservative... they think it wrong to talk to a guy... although they too r having bfs...
I can't even share my problems with them

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Originally Posted by joypulv

He IS just flirting. Love is not possible when you have never even met in person. Love takes time and lots of good times and tough times. It is mutual respect and admiration and compromise. Proposals of marriage mean nothing. He might just want sex and then dump you. Who knows? Like I said - go meet him or stop all this internet dating.

I suspect that he is married or has a girlfriend and that's why he ignores you all day, unless he has a busy job - how would we know? You should not believe ANYTHING online.
And when you do meet, you do it mid-day in a public place.
You talk.
You can be as romantic as you want, as long as you also find out important facts and eventually prove them - who he is, where he lives and works, is he married or not, or a criminal. And you take it slowly so you can also find out if he has other women he's dating, and so on! Good grief, this should all be obvious.
I think you need a best friend who can help you.

Oh - and don't be so desperate that you complain about sex talk only and then when he says he'll stop, you say OK.

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Your other posts have been removed due to your use of text speak. This site requires use of full words and sentences. i.e. u is not acceptable for YOU, r is not acceptable for ARE, bfs?

Continued use of text speak will cause all threads/posts to be removed as well.

If your friends are conservative, all the better to rely on them in this situation, because you sound extremely naïve and gullible (inexperienced and easily fooled). Take one girl friend with you when you go meet him, and tell him so in advance. If he's not a nice guy, he won't want to go.

Wait... in the last 2 weeks you started talking, became good friends, fell in love, and then he proposed... 2 weeks of chatting online and you've already been through all this? Did I read it wrong or misunderstand it?

Things are moving way too quickly... why don't you try meeting but hold off on having any sex until you can really decide if this is what you think it is... try meeting a few times. 2 weeks chatting online is way too soon to be in love and proposing (and accepting) marriage.

The secret to online networking is be safe and never assume the other party is telling the truth so you never get carried away by your own emotions and rush head first into the unknown with a stranger. I don't care how long you chat online, or what's said, you put your own security first.

Meet in a safe place and judge from there with eyes open and an alert mind and leave the fantasy hopes at home.

Ok I won't repeat this in future...

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Your other posts have been removed due to your use of text speak. This site requires use of full words and sentences. i.e. u is not acceptable for YOU, r is not acceptable for ARE, bfs?

Continued use of text speak will cause all threads/posts to be removed as well.

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I think its over now...
Today he asked me for online chat... and we both saw each other again... he was saying again and again that I can't see you clearly... and we were online for 10min... then he said call again... I said now we have seen and there must be a problem on your side... and he just logged out... I text him on phone.. that what happened.. but he hasn't replied yet... I think he di'nt like me..

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Wait....in the last 2 weeks you started talking, became good friends, fell in love, and then he proposed....2 weeks of chatting online and you've already been through all this? Did I read it wrong or misunderstand it?

Things are moving way too quickly....why don't you try meeting but hold off on having any sex until you can really decide if this is what you think it is....try meeting a few times. 2 weeks chatting online is way too soon to be in love and proposing (and accepting) marriage.

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Jiya, don't go alone to meet this guy, take some friend with you and most importantly you have complex for yourself and your looks. So remove that complex, how do you look and how does he look. Just because he is looking good in pictures, doesn't make him good person and vice-versa. You don't know about his background. He might be telling the truth, might be not. So don't get attach to someone you hardly even seen. And don't use lines like I don't deserve you. You are sounding stupid. I hope you will not say I love you in the first meeting. Good luck.

Actually we both are studying in same university but our departments are different and quite far away... I am not a resident of this city... but he is... I reside here in hostel...
So I started chatting with him.. but after getting my no.he just call me in the night and says that he was busy as he carry a business also... and he just start with kisses... and end with kisses...
He never asks me If I had my lunch dinner and all...
Jst he calls and says baby kiss me... baby I want to make love with you...

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Originally Posted by talaniman

The secret to online networking is be safe and never assume the other party is telling the truth so you never get carried away by your own emotions and rush head first into the unknown with a stranger. I don't care how long you chat online, or what's said, you put your own security first.

Meet in a safe place and judge from there with eyes open and an alert mind and leave the fantasy hopes at home.

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Heyy thanks...
Yea I won't say like this again...
But I feel that He'll stop talking to me... and then I have to suffer again as I had sufered some months before..

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Originally Posted by smkanand

Jiya, don't go alone to meet this guy, take some friend with you and most importantly you have complex for yourself and your looks. so remove that complex, how do you look and how does he look. just because he is looking good in pictures, doesn't make him good person and vice-versa. you don't know about his background. he might be telling the truth, might be not. so don't get attach to someone you hardly even seen. and don't use lines like I don't deserve you. you are sounding stupid. I hope you will not say I love you in the first meeting. good luck.

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Just because your single and had break up doesn't mean you have to suffer. If you will start falling for people in 2 weeks then its easy to get hurt, your young and there is lot of time ahead. As you said you live in hostel and studying so focus on studies for better future, life is long.

Ok I'll try my best...
Now I won't talk to any guy... they all are of same type...
Thank you so much smkanand...

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Originally Posted by smkanand

just because your single and had break up doesn't mean you have to suffer. if you will start falling for people in 2 weeks then its easy to get hurt, your young and there is lot of time ahead. as you said you live in hostel and studying so focus on studies for better future, life is long.

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Originally Posted by Jiya05

Actually we both are studying in same university but our departments are different and quite far away... I am not a resident of this city... but he is... I reside here in hostel...
So I started chatting with him.. but after getting my no.he just call me in the night and says that he was busy as he carry a business also... and he just start with kisses... and end with kisses...
He never asks me If I had my lunch dinner and all...
Jst he calls and says baby kiss me... baby I want to make love with you...

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That's your first warning! BUT...

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when I said him that you do such type of talks with me he said OK will never do if you feel so... and so I said no no you can do.. nd he again started..

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You had a chance and didn't take it so its not all him. But still focus on your education and leave the online guy stuff alone.