I have posted before about the relationship that I am currently in. In short, we had a week of tough times and kind of got back together. I say kind of because I have stayed at her house twice since this happened and we have been talking everyday. The last time I stayed with her she made comments about a bunch of guys I work with hitting on her, (Which is why are troubles started in the first place) and how she whished everybody would leave her alone. Now, she called me to come over, but was she talking about me as well. I get the feeling she keeps me around because she knows I will be there when she wants me to be. I may just be trying to dig too deep, but either she wants to take things slow or she just plain wants me to be in her pocket and for her to be able to do what ever. I like her so I guess I am in a pickle, huh!

It's not helpful if she's bouncing back and forth between wanting you and rubbing it in your face that you're not the only game in town. If you want to keep a shred of dignity, ignore her. Stop hanging out and running to her place when she decides to invite you. She's playing games with you, and you're letting her. If she really wants to be with you long term, she needs to grow up some.

I agree with vlee.

She's throwing it in your face that others are interested so if she wants to be serious about a relationship she needs to quit bringing other people into it and tell those other people she's committed to you.

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Originally Posted by brew49411

she just plain wants me to be in her pocket and for her to be able to do what ever.

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You're 100% right.

And by you accepting the situation and letting her get away with it you have no one to blame but yourself.

Is this what you want in a partner?

You must love this roller coaster ride your on. That what it is, and though you talk you are not communicating. She is a bit flakey to me, so backoff some and get a clearer picture of what's going on.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

You must love this roller coaster ride your on.

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Not really... I wish everything was more cut and dry, but like you said, it is what it is! I don't want to be with anybody else, but she really is making it difficult to be with her!