My daughter has made many mistakes in her life, from having three children with fathers who have ended up in prison to having a very unclean home and she is extremely lazy. She struggles financially and we help her a lot with school clothes, groceries and Christmas and the list goes on. We have loaned her money for cars and lent her money for other things as well. My problem is she is very mean and abusive when she is asked to pay a loan back. I am always the bad guy. What could you suggest I do to be able to still help my grandkids but not be the punching board for her any longer?

First off stop giving your daughter money... you are enabling her behavior... When she can't pay the bills call CPS and try to get custody of the kids. Time for tough love. She doesn't appreciate any other kind apparently. Let her continue she will suck every dime you have from you and still not appreciate it. You need to have money set aside for your own old age... its clear you won't be getting any help from her.

Sorry to come off as heartless and harsh... but I've known too many like her... some of them are relatives. Their greed knows no end on average.

Stop giving her everything... she is an adult and has to know how to get by on her own. If she can't treat you with decency, and appreciate the help she gets, then she deserves nothing.