A family just moved into my neighbourhood. In the short period they have stayed there, I noticed that one of the children; a boy of about eight years old might have a medical condition. On several occasions, I have seen this boy collapse for just no reason. I know some people have a tendency to faint when they overwork themselves but this case is quite different. From my observation, this mysterious collapse he experiences does not follow any definite pattern. Sometimes he collapes in the morning, sometimes at noon, sometimes multiple times in a day. When this happens, he gets up all by himself after about 2 to 3 minutes and becomes as normal as every other child. I think this unusual almost immediate recovery he experiences is the reason why his parents don't consider the condition as much of a threat. Please if anyone can explain what that condition is, its causes and possible treatment to me it will be appreciated. I really want to offer any form of help to this child.

How do you know that he isn't being seen for this "condition"? I mean, I admire the fact that you feel you want to help but just because he is doing this doesn't mean he isn't being treated for it.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

How do you know that he isn't being seen for this "condition"? I mean, I admire the fact that you feel you want to help but just because he is doing this doesn't mean he isn't being treated for it.

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Maybe I forgot to metion it. I tried to talk to the mum about it only to discover that she is aware of it and sees it as lightly as she sees a slight headache. If I were more informed on the condition, maybe I would have been able to convince her that the child is actually suffering mare than he is seen and assumed to be. So he isn't been treated to the best of my knowledge.

We can't diagnose online. In other words, we have no idea what is causing this, only a doctor would be able to diagnose after seeing the child, not online.

I hate to say this, and it's going to sound harsh, but when you asked the mother about this, she had no reason to discuss her sons medical issues with you, and you actually have no right whatsoever to that information. You don't know if she's seen a doctor about this already, and the doctor was the one that told her not to worry, so she doesn't. You don't know what's been done for this child, or what's being done. As a mother, frankly, if someone I don't really know that well, not a member of my family, approached me asking questions about one of my children's medical issues, I wouldn't be so nice about it. I'd tell you where to stick your nose, and what to do with your questions.

If the children are being mistreated (abused emotionally or physically) then call CPS. But when it comes to this, it's really none of your business, and you have no right to interfere.

Alty I perfectly understand your point but your theory would have been a possibility if the boy's parents were civilized and had at least an average level of exposure but this case is very different. They are totally ignorant possibly due to lack of education and probably the kind of environment they were used to before the relocation. Trust me I'm not just some guy who doesn't know where to poke his nose in this case. I'm just trying to see if I can help and even if my effort will not be appreciated, by the end of the day, my knowledge base would have experienced a surge. I don't think that is bad idea either.

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Originally Posted by cacman

Alty I perfectly understand your point but your theory would have been a possibility if the boy's parents were civilized and had at least an average level of exposure but this case is very different. They are totally ignorant possibly due to lack of education and probably the kind of environment they were used to before the relocation. Trust me I m not just some guy who doesn't know where to poke his nose in this case. I m just trying to see if I can help and even if my effort will not be appreciated, by the end of the day, my knowledge base would have experienced a surge. I don't think that is bad idea either.

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You don't understand at all. Bottom line, unless you steal the child and bring him to the doctor for a diagnosis, you will not ever know what's going on. If you take that route you'll be in jail. There is no way to even guess at a decent diagnosis online. You won't find the answers on a computer.

Having said that, what makes you think this family needs your help, or that they'd appreciate it? You talked to the mom, she's not concerned, that's the end of it. Unless they're abusing their children, and you have proof, there's nothing more for you to do.

You're a busybody, and you're sticking your nose into other people's business when it's none of your business. These are not your children, they're not even members of your family. Unless these children are being abused in some way, you need to let this go and mind your own business.

A wild guess might be petit mal epilepsy. There, I said it.

My thoughts are: It is none of your business. Leave it alone. You're interfering and being nosy. That's enough for her to get a restraining order on you.

Just drop it.

Is this little boy collapsing at your house? If so, I do think it is your business. If the child is collapsing at your place while playing with your children then you have the right to know if there is a medical condition. What if the boy doesn't get back up? You should know if you need to call the EMTs for a medical emergency.

Legally you have no "right" to know anything. If/when the child collapses, call the Police, call for an ambulance. If he's "continuously" (and I question the use of that word) it will happen.

If you believe the failure to get medical treatment is child abuse, call Child Protective Services (or whatever it's called in your area).

Otherwise this is truly none of your business. You went to the parents and explained your concern and they, apparently, don't want to hear it, so leave them alone. You have enough going on in your life - don't try to raise someone else's children.