Assalamalaikum my marriage was decided on my would be husbands wish he is working in ministry of saudi arabia name mohammed farhan nawaz our mrg is postponed frm 2 years because his elder sister is nt married still he used to cm our hm did many promises recently I got a job my dad said me to join it as they did not perform any engagemnt also I hv to listn to my father only for this reason this boy who was in a relation with me frm 4 years said directly that he is not interested in marrying me and I shuld go my own way I can't even think of other person what should I do please tel me giv any help please my name is safina arshiya from india working as a govt. Teacher presently

What will be result if you follow love marriage, what will be reaction of family, and father?

And one more thing m same safina arshiya govt. Teacher after I joind job also he said me you continue your job but before marriage I have to leav I agreed for that I hv only one problm I love him vry deeply and said him to stay in india and do job here only v both can stay together what is wrong in it? It is continuation of previous question please do me any favour you can spk to him may be he will undrstnd if you say as he is wrking in ministry of saudi arabia you can cal and spk easily please do some favour to me my complt life will be spoild if he is angry on any if my talk I am ready to apologise

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What will be result if you follow love marriage, what will be reaction of family, and father?

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Look safina, the question is this guy is not interested in you anymore. He wants you to leave job, that's unfair. You have complete right over your job. I'm sorry we here can not speak to him. Similarly he has complete right over his job. The only solution is that you should talk to your parents and tell them truth. They can help you and guide you.fortunately you have got job in government sector so your future is fine. Now you have to focus on yourself. So work hard, make proud yourself. If you find anybody in future worthy then get married. I'm sure your parents will understand. If you are ready to leave the job and country then get married to him but please tell your parents. Remember you will be responsible for your decisions. Good luck.

Hi smkanand my parents and his parents have decided our mrg aftr his elder sis mrg but just bcoz of job all this happened evrythng was fine btwn us and our families only his dad is against job aftr I joind job also he the guy was in contact vt me recently he came to india what has hpnd in his hm I don't know as I joind job thy said him ti brk vt me or what suddenly he said he don't want me

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Hi smkanand my parents n his parents hav decided our mrg aftr his elder sis mrg but just bcoz of job all this happened evrythng ws fine btwn us n our families only his dad is against job aftr i joind job also he the guy was in contact vt me recently he came to india what has hpnd in his hm i dnt knw as i joind job thy said him ti brk vt me or wht suddenly he said he dnt want me

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Please use completely spelled out words and good English. Your posts are nearly unreadable. A moderator will remove this thread if the English doesn't improve.

Safina, you should talk to him about this, if possible face to face. Because you need to know why does he changing his attitude. You should ask him clearly what is the reason. Does his father told him or something else? You need to ask him. Then only you will find solution to this. Ask him the real reason.

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safina, you should talk to him about this, if possible face to face. because you need to know why does he changing his attitude. you should ask him clearly what is the reason. does hifather told him or something else? you need to ask him. then only you will find solution to this. ask him

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Thereal reason he is not even ready to listen my voice I tried to speak to him many times did messages he did lot of promices with me almost 4 hours he used to spend with me on calling and net m unable to manage anything not even able to concentrate on job sometimes I am getting idea of suicide

That's wrong. Don't think of suicide just because of a person, life is precious and luckily people around you, love you. You have family, friends and a good job. What else one can ask to God, look around people don't have freedom to even do job. If this guy loves you, sooner or later he will contact you. But you keep trying to make him talk. If all efforts fails, move on. You deserve better. Life is great and full of surprises.

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that's wrong. don't think of suicide just because of a person, life is precious and luckily people around you, love you. you have family, friends and a good job. what else one can ask to God, look around people don't have freedom to even do job. if this guy loves you, sooner or later he will contact you. but you keep trying to make him talk. if all efforts fails, move on. you deserve better. life is great and full of surprises.

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Thanks for the concern and answers you have given regarding my problems I am not trying to speak to that guy as my dad said he wants to finish relation if I speak now lifelong he will blame me that he wanted to leave me but forcefully I entered in his life again so I am just praying to god that I luved him truly and he too luved me truly oh god please make our match once again thatsall I request you and all who are reading this to pray for me and him to be one once again