I have been in a relationship for almost a year.
We are both 30, met on line.
Last weekend I planned a surprise birthday dinner for my boyfriend, I got his best friend to drive out here from out of town, he loved it.
During dinner I asked for everyone to wait and eat until my boyfriends food got there, because he was the birthday boy, he thought this was very rude and said "DONT BE LIKE THAT" and after all I went through to make that nigth special I took that very personal. I was hurt and could not let go of that comment, we left the restaurant and I refused to spend the nigth with him and went home, the next day I was still livid, I broke up with him.
He called me and said he wanted me to be a part of his life and did not mean to hurt my feelings. I thought everything was okay until last night, he called and said he was still angry about the weekend, he thinks I am very sensitive, he said the incident made him reaelize I take things very personal and that perhaps I love him much more than he loves me, he said "i guess what i am trying to say is i dont love you 100%"
I asked if the nature of the call was to break up, there was silence. He said "I DONT KNOW" he told me he wanted to be clear about where he stands and wanted to put the cards on the table and would like to see things be a little more lose so I don't get so hurt and act so sensitive. I cried, I cried very hard, it hurt to hear him say he does not love me with the same intensity. He offered to get together this weekend and talk in person, he wants to go to dinner and talk, I asked him what he wants to do, I flat out asked him "do you want this to end?" and he says "i dont know, lets wait a couple days and talk in person"
NOW I AM SO FEARFUL. I am fearful he wants to break up and does not know how.
I don't know what to talk about on the weekend, I am afraid to speak from the heart if he already thinks I am "sensitive"... he is a former marine, very un emotional and I love him, this was a shock, there have been wonderful moments and I never saw this coming.
What do I talk about on the weekend? Is this a break up?
Do I let this man go? Is this the end? He won't give me a straight answer.
But I also feel he won't fight to keep this together, he said if I never want to talk to him ever again, he will understand.
Please give me your feed back.

Well - it's not a break up - yet - tell him you love if you do. This weekend is critical. Tell him exactly how you feel. Make SURE he listens. You listen to him.

It's sounds like he loves you - bt wants to know what cards you are holding.

Be open and honest.

You guys seem like you're going through a power control struggle. IT'S UNHEALHTY;

You do sound sensitive, and this relationship sounds fragile. Stay calm and work out a solution that benefits you both this weekend. Talk and listen to each other. If you have nothing to say listen with an open mind and get this resolved.

Listening is so key here. KEY.

I might suggest a 'talking stick' on this one. It's where the person holding the atick gets to talk... and the other person MUST listen. I mean really listen. It sounds like you guys right now need help in communicating.