Hey, guy I'm Jalen and I'm just so confused. Ok, my girlfriend and I broke up once because we were arguing. Now that we're back together. My girlfriend tell me she loves me, and want to be with me, but she has no feelings for me no more because of the arguments pushed her away.

We were arguing about messaging ex's, her being rude to me, and showing no affection to me when one of her family members was around like a kiss, play around a little, or hold her. I get no kind of attention, but her family, and friends get more attention when we all hangout. It feels like she leaves me out when I'm around her friends and family, and her family usually talks bad about me. My family says some negatives things about her but I never make her feel left out at my dads.

Idk what to do or how to get her feelings back. It feels like I can't tell her how I feel without her getting mad, or starting an argument, because she said arguing pushed her away, and so I don't want to accidental push it because she trying hard to get her feelings back that she had, and I stop arguing, but she still is. I've change, and she willing to do the same, but nothing has change. It's like she has a short temper now, after we got back together, and now just rude to me when easily irritated because of something little, or dog on me in front of other people. It pisses me off.

But anyway, I love her so much and she says she loves me. I just hope she telling the truth. Please help me or give me advise!!

She doesn't love you anymore and you made her feel guilty so she took you back. Now she is trying to make you want to leave her so she doesn't have the guilt of breaking up.

Why be in this relationship? It really sounds like both of you need to do some growing up.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

She doesn't love you anymore and you made her feel guilty so she took you back. Now she is trying to make you want to leave her so she doesn't have the guilt of breaking up.

Why be in this relationship? It really sounds like both of you need to do some growing up.

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I know we both need some growing up, but she disagrees, and me, the reason I'm in this relationship because we choose to work out things and we love eachtoher. Now that we been back together if we argued she would just say I don't know anymore, so I don't know what's going threw her head. During the one day we were broke up she had communicated with her first love and was schedule to meet up with the dude during the one day we were broke up. I didn't talk or see no one. We're making up now and she told me she promise not to go see him and tell him off(hard to believe) but we went on 2 day break . The day we broke up and got back together, she had call me that night before I went to city and said come home, I can't do this.

2 weeks from then. Everything going all right. She still get emotional and sometimes in a bad mood. So I just leave her alone and let her be but I don't know what she want still.

It's hard to tell and the only thing I know is she's trying to be with me. It's either going to work or not. Idk, sometimes I feel like giving up but I never had feelings for any other girl more than her and I know I should move on but I choose not to. It would be amazed to be in love with eachtoher like before we broke up.

Stop the arguing and whining. If she doesn't treat you with respect both in public and private dump her. This doesn't sound like fun and arguing takes two. Sometimes you can't go back to the way things were.

Okay thanks

Ok, everything going good now. My girlfriend is messegin her old best friend boyfriend about there relationship problems. So I told my girlfriend let me tell his girlfriend that y'all two was talking about there relationship problems and my girlfriend said I will not stop talking to him, we been friend since 6th grade. I don't even know this guy, never seen or met him, and then my girlfriend told me get past it or whatever. What should I do?

First, you can love someone, but not be IN love. There is a difference. Secondly, I recommend you taking the advice of previous responders. Sounds like you both have quite a bit of maturing to do, before expressing your undying love for one another...

How old are you both?

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Originally Posted by talaniman

how old are you both?

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20

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Originally Posted by Jalen93

Ok, everything going good now. My gf is messegin her old best friend boyfriend about there relationship problems. So I told my gf let me tell his gf that y'all two was talking about there relationship problems and my gf said I will not stop talking to him, we been friend since 6th grade. I dont even know this guy, never seen or met him, and then my gf told me get past it or whatever. What should I do?

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I would be long gone if my girl was talking about a past failed relationship with her ex, to her ex.

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I would be long gone if my girl was talking about a past failed relationship with her ex, to her ex.

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No, what I'm saying is her old best friend is a girl and my girlfriend won't stop talking to her man about their problems.

Thanks for your clarity, however that's between them and is none of your business to begin with.

And now she saying she's not going to quit messaging her friend( which he is a boy). An the boy she's messaging told my girlfriend not to tell his girlfriend that they were talking about there problems but I'm going to tell his girlfriend.

And she lied to me about saying his girlfriend know but ill leave it alone. It's no big deal.