Ask Me Help Desk - I don't like my prom date!

SOOO yeah I asked her to prom the day before spring break, and she said yes. I asked her with a cookie pack during lunch. Well we really don't talk much because its so awkward talking to her. I canceled on her once, and she was pissed (then I find out she was also planning to cancel on me, but I guess I beat her to the punch lol).

So then I felt bad and asked her if she would take me back and she did so were still going. Well then weeks later I got a backup date because just in case she canceled on me I'd already would still have a date ;). Well she found out, and yeah called me a huge jerk, but I talked my way out of it and just apologized and were still going but I REALLY hate myself for asking her in the first place! Like I would prefer going by myself lol and yeah all my friends know I don't want to go but its so close to prom and I have my tux and she her dress. I bought the tickets on Friday and just said hey and handed them to her and just walked away... awkward lol.

So yeah I just texted her today that I just bought her her corsage and the boutonnière, (I paid for both) and yeah I haven't seen her dress, all I know is that its pink with gold so that's what I told the florist. I had asked my date what color she wanted and she just told me the colors of her dress and let me decide. Like I can tell she doesn't want to go with me either and its sooo stupid that were going together but what should I do?? I have no expectations of having a good time, I'm dreading meeting her parents and taking pictures and having dinner with her! I kind of plan just to do the whole picture and dinner thing, and once at prom find our table and yeah I'll dance with other girls, we might get a dance together but that's about it!

I want to flirt with other girls too (I've been told I'm really good looking). So how do I get through prom without it being so awkward? I mean me and my date hardly talk now.

Not trying to be mean here but you sound kind of like a jerk. You ask her, then cancel... then ask again... then get a back-up... a back up? Really? Who's the poor girl waiting in the wings just in case you need her as a back up? Does this poor girl know she is being used just in case? You say you don't think your date even wants to go... why would she?

Sounds like a real jerk,

You asked her, you take her, stop treating her this way.

What about trying to talk to her more now, be better friends

Yeah I know I'm kind of a jerk... but in my defense I had told the back up if she's go with me in case my current date decided to cancel. She was just doing me a favor.I don't think she really wants to go just because she doesn't like me very much I don't know... I would be ecstatic if she canceled on me right now... I feel like canceling but I won't because that would make me a huge jerk!

You're not kind of a jerk, you're a jerk hands down, no grey area at all. I'm not surprised she doesn't really want to go with you, and doesn't like you. I don't like you that much and that's just based on what you wrote.

You made your bed, now you get to lay in it. Suck it up and go with her, treat her well, and realize that you can't play with people this way. If you do, it's often you that ends up getting screwed in the end.

As for you being good looking. Dude, learn a bit of humility, it will serve you well in the future, because I doubt you're half as hot as you think you are.

Have fun at the prom. :)

Edit: I forget to add my lol, since that seems to be the way teens talk. Like really lol, I really lol, think you should lol, learn a lesson from this lol.

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Originally Posted by Alty

You're not kind of a jerk, you're a jerk hands down, no grey area at all. I'm not surprised she doesn't really want to go with you, and doesn't like you. I don't like you that much and that's just based on what you wrote.

You made your bed, now you get to lay in it. Suck it up and go with her, treat her well, and realize that you can't play with people this way. If you do, it's often you that ends up getting screwed in the end.

As for you being good looking. Dude, learn a bit of humility, it will serve you well in the future, because I doubt you're half as hot as you think you are.

Have fun at the prom. :)

Edit: I forget to add my lol, since that seems to be the way teens talk. Like really lol, I really lol, think you should lol, learn a lesson from this lol.

wow your kind of mean =/ I am going to suck it up and I have tried to treat her well! Besides the whole canceling part! Like I really am going to try and make sure she has a fun time, kind of as a way to say sorry for being a jerk. Also I'm not playing with anyone's feelings! She was going to cancel on me too, but I guess I just did it first. So she's not as Innocent as you think. And Hey the good looking comments mean!!

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Originally Posted by vicperez001

wow your kind of mean =/ I am going to suck it up and I have tried to treat her well! besides the whole canceling part! like I really am going to try and make sure she has a fun time, kind of as a way to say sorry for being a jerk. Also I'm not playing with anyone's feelings! she was going to cancel on me too, but I guess I just did it first. So she's not as Innocent as you think. and Hey the good looking comments mean!!!!

Mean? No. I just call them like I see them. I based my answer on your post. I can tell you that as a girl, any guy that said "I'm good looking" was destined to be tossed. Vanity isn't a great quality. You need to be a bit more humble. Hopefully that's something you'll learn as you get older.

Fact is, you asked her, so you made your bed. Now you get to lay in it. It doesn't matter that she wanted to cancel too. Neither one of you should have made this date if you don't even like each other, but it's made, the tickets are bought, the clothes are bought, the flowers are bought, so you may as well make the most of it.

Bottom line, it's too late to go back and rethink this, so learn to be a man and accept the consequences of your actions.

Good luck.

As far as her wanting to cancel on you... how do you know that for sure? And IF she was really going to do it, maybe it was because she thought it was weird or rude that once you asked her to go, you wouldn't talk to her.

Now you say this:

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I have tried to treat her well! Besides the whole canceling part! Like I really am going to try and make sure she has a fun time, kind of as a way to say sorry for being a jerk.

After having said this:

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and once at prom find our table and yeah i'll dance with other girls, we might get a dance together but that's abut it! And I want to flirt with other girls too (iv'e been told I'm really good looking)

So how is dancing and flirting with other girls going to make sure that your date has a good time?

Your lack of honety even with yourself got you in this mess and your lack of character is what will make this a miserable memory for you both.

Suck it up and show some character and class instead of being a dishonest jerk. Your choice.