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  • May 4, 2013, 06:19 AM
    Confused1Help
    Needs some time to think
    My girlfriend and I have only been dating for about three months, but unlike past relationships this one was going PERFECT. No arguments, no drama, just happiness, not just for me but her too. Last weekend we had our first "argument" and I acted quite different for about 2.5 days. Since she has not been the same, It took me a couple days to get back to my normal self but she just seemed very distant for that week. Today she said she wanted to take the weekend to think about things and spend time with her family and friends. At first I responded badly, by getting angry and asking why. But then I said "ok well take your time and contact me when you're ready." She told me that I didn't have to stop contacting her all together. When I told her that I was going out with some friends for the night, she was kind of mad about it. She texted me that she was going to bed and I may have made the mistake of telling her that I loved her(we've said it before) but she said it back.

    Im kind of confused by all this. My first thought was that there was someone else she was interested in but I just can't see that because we have been very close and she literally doesn't have the time and we pretty much see each others text and Facebook stuff. She said its all over the argument we had, which is understandable, but what's so confusing is that she is letting this "smaller" argument erase all the good things that I've/we've done.

    How do you guys translate this?


    Thanks!
  • May 4, 2013, 07:16 AM
    odinn7
    You say it was a "smaller" argument but we don't know what it was about and what you actually said. Then you said you acted differently for 2 1/2 days... then to top it off, you got mad at her when she said she wanted the weekend. None of this looks good for you.

    Give her the time she needs and hope for the best.
  • May 4, 2013, 07:45 AM
    Confused1Help
    Sorry double post
  • May 4, 2013, 07:49 AM
    Confused1Help
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by odinn7 View Post
    You say it was a "smaller" argument but we don't know what it was about and what you actually said. Then you said you acted differently for 2 1/2 days....then to top it off, you got mad at her when she said she wanted the weekend. None of this looks good for you.

    Give her the time she needs and hope for the best.

    To make excuses for myself: I take medication for bipolar and depression. I broke out in a rash and decided to stop the medication all together. HORRIBLE IDEA! She knew this, and the complete drop off meds sent me into a weird state of depression.She believed me when I told her it was the medication making me act this way and that id be better in a few days. I never said anything bad about her, it was literally me acting very standoffish, because I was just very depressed.So technically there wasn't an argument, it was just me acting differently. When I say I was "mad" it was more my mind state, I didn't say anything angry to her just "asking why" because to me it was completely out of left field and if there was another guy.

    Thanks for your response. I hope with my added information you can add a little more insight.

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