I have been in a 2 year on and off relationship and have a 1 year old with him. He sexted other girls during our pregnancy and even before and constantly dumps me when things get tough. My hearts a complete mess and self esteem shot.

Just would like some advice please on how do I move on, feel better and manage the fact he will be picking our baby up at least once a week when I'm so broke up over it. Currently I put in a brave face but inside I'm a complete emotional mess. Thank you very much x

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He is picking up the baby, not visiting you, make the pick up somewhere away from home, or even best, always have a third party with you if he comes.

He comes to door, you hand him baby, and he goes.

He should own and have all his own baby supplies, make him a list if he is stupid of what he must have in his home for him to have baby.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

he is picking up the baby, not visiting you, make the pick up somewhere away from home, or even best, always have a third party with you if he comes.

He comes to door, you hand him baby, and he goes.

he should own and have all his own baby supplies, make him a list if he is stupid of what he must have in his home for him to have baby.

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Thank you for the reply, he will try and make small talk but I don't want that as it makes me think things are OK when they aren't , I will do what you have advised thanku

When your boyfriend ( and baby father ) of 2 years and having been through a really messed up on and off relationship tells you they are depressed, don't know what he don't know what he wants anymore, doesn't know anything, give me time to sort myself out is it already over?

What would you do? Should I do no contact to give that time or am I just being played


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Without more details, I can only guess... probably.

EDIT- Actually, I just read your other question(s) and now it all seems more clear. The guy cheats on you and treats you like garbage... it's over... that is better for you in the long run anyway.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-do-cope-wih-contact-when-im-hurting-747287.html

Accept that the romance love and together is over, and the parenting is all that remains for the next 18 years or so. You do like any divorced couple after a failed marriage. You set rules and boundaries and agree on who pays and supplies what.

This is best done in court so at least you have an agreement in writing. Above allhandle your child's business first, cry later, and heal in time.

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Without more details, I can only guess....probably.

EDIT- Actually, I just read your other question(s) and now it all seems more clear. The guy cheats on you and treats you like garbage....it's over....that is better for you in the long run anyway.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ng-747287.html

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Thanku for your advice and reply it's helped me accept things thanku

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Accept that the romance love and together is over, and the parenting is all that remains for the next 18 years or so. You do like any divorced couple after a failed marriage. You set rules and boundaries and agree on who pays and supplies what.

This is best done in court so at least you have an agreement in writing. Above allhandle your child's business first, cry later, and heal in time.

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Yes I think your right and will do that it's about the baby now and being mature isn't it ,
Thanku for taking time to reply

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Originally Posted by odinn7

Without more details, I can only guess....probably.

EDIT- Actually, I just read your other question(s) and now it all seems more clear. The guy cheats on you and treats you like garbage....it's over....that is better for you in the long run anyway.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ng-747287.html

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Yeah facts are fact aren't they and to me sending rude txs was cheating though to him it wasn't