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I think I know what the answer to this question would be but I was wondering my daughter lives with my mom in Connecticut and I am moving to Florida.(work) My mother has guardianship. Now going through the courts is a long process for me to get my rights back. If my mother were to agree to me taking her and her living with me without the court's consenting it is it possible? It's probably a no but I think of outthere things at night. I just want my little one with me where she belongs. With out having to wait basically a year.

What were the circumstances where your mother got guardianship?

Yes, it's probably possible. We don't know the details, but normally if your mother consents, sure.

But I find it very hard to believe modification of the guardianship would take anything like a year. Who told you that?

I know "we're" not supposed to read into questions but I suspect this is some type of Court-mandated cooling off/treatment period before custody is returned. Perhaps anger management, drugs, alcohol, something else. I don't think guardianship was handed to the grandmother without a reason.

And as far as the child being with the mother in the best interest of the child if the Court has mandated a one year period outside the mother's custody I would not defy that arrangement.

You have lost your rights? Your mother has court ordered guardianship?

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My mother has guardianship. Now going through the courts is a long process for me to get my rights back

No, it's not possible without the court's approval.

This gets more and more complicated - on April 11 (2013) the OP already LIVES in Florida with her fiancé (getting married in “about a year”). The question was whether the convicted felon for child endangerment fiancé could adopt her child IF the father of the child, who lives in Connecticut, consents. No mention of the mother having guardianship.

Now the OP is MOVING to Florida for work and the convicted felon fiancé is not mentioned, nor is the natural father.

Spidey senses tingling.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...ld-743815.html

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ERROR: You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to JudyKayTee again.

Your spidey senses are always right!

Let me explain something about this site. We don't like being played. When we find someone has posted contradictory stories, it bothers us and brings your credibility into doubt.

So lets see if you can explain away the differences between these two posts, otherwise both threads will be closed.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

This gets more and more complicated - on April 11 (2013) the OP already LIVES in Florida with her fiancé (getting married in “about a year”). The question was whether or not the convicted felon for child endangerment fiancé could adopt her child IF the father of the child, who lives in Connecticut, consents. No mention of the mother having guardianship.

Now the OP is MOVING to Florida for work and the convicted felon fiancé is not mentioned, nor is the natural father.

Spidey senses tingling.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/family...ld-743815.html

Yes in that question I put that I live in fl I felt that it was easier to state that I already live there which technically I do and have for a few yrs have just been in ct for some months seeing my daughter and working. And as for my fiancé he's still mine we have been together for five yrs. The things that have happened before me do not define him and you probably think what he did was awful and how could this woman be with a guy who has that on his record especially when she has a child I read all the reports, talked to his probation officer when he had one, and the judge. It's stated that what happened was not his fault. It just had to get put down as something... I'm sorry if I seem off base to you late at night and I can't sleep questions come into my head and the first one was stated like that also because I do plan to have my child before marriage and him trying to adopt

Why don't you have guardianship/custody of your child?

Ok, we'll accept that for the moment. But you didn't answer the key question of why you don't have custody.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Why don't you have guardianship/custody of your child?

Basically it started as my mother gained temporary custody of my child when we lost our house I had nowhere suitable to live for a little one. When I got a place I was working at night and had no-one to care for her that I would trust with my kid. About two years ago I moved down to fl to help with my fiancés mother who has cancer before I left I signed my rights to my mother because the courts said it was the right thing to do and it wouldn't make things any harder to get her back. But it seems harder they have me jumping through every hoop they can think of

Did you actually sign over rights or did you just give her guardianship or custody? You need to be clear on exactly what you did. Guardianship can usually be easily revoked. Custody requires a court petition. If you signed over rights then your mother may have adopted your daughter which can make it almost impossible to revoke.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Did you actually sign over rights or did you just give her guardianship or custody? You need to be clear on exactly what you did. Guardianship can usually be easily revoked. Custody requires a court petition. If you signed over rights then your mother may have adopted your daughter which can make it almost impossible to revoke.

From what my mother just told me I signed over guardianship and she has temporary custody

Don't go by what she told you. Get a copy of the documents your signed or the orders issued by the court.

"They" have you jumping through hoops. Who is "they?"

So your fiancé was framed on the charges, and his PO agreed?

Why not get an Attorney and try to get the charge set aside?

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Originally Posted by perfectomg

... My mother has guardianship. now going through the courts is a long process for me to get my rights back. If my mother were to agree to me taking her and her living with me without the court's consenting it is it possible? ...

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from what my mother just told me I signed over guardianship and she has temporary custody

So, I repeat: who said it would take about a year? It appears to me that your mother is possibly not telling you the truth.