Help me understand her please. Is she playing games
So this is a long story, I shall try and shorten it as much as possible. Thank you to those who took time out to read and answer.
So I was travelling, and ended up flying to a country and my friend introduced me to this girl who would show me around. I met her had a great time with her and her family and then she had to move back to go to uni (she was studying in another country and just back visiting her family at the time I was there). We hit it off and she wanted me to go with her so she purchased flights for me costing around $2000 (after knowing her for 2 days!). I spent time with her then went home. She was really into me but at the time I was not looking for a relationship. Anyway she then flew and met me in Europe and then back to the UK to visit where I live.
We had a good time and she wanted to come and move to the UK to be with me. She was in love with me at this point. I was not sure at that point what I wanted, I did not want to hurt her by getting her to change her life for me without me being sure, and this was all moving too fast so I was honest from the start. She said she will wait for me to make my mind up. This was around July. We were in touch but soon it came to October and she was still waiting. We were in touch through this time, we talked and skyped a lot.
She then called me and said she met someone that likes her but she doesn’t know what to do as she wants to be with me. I couldn’t commit at the time still. So I told her to do what she felt was right, come December I know I’m madly in love with her and miss her like crazy (I would like to point I stayed loyal). So I get in touch and she says she still likes me but is with someone now. I tell her I want to try and buy her a ticket to visit so we can be together. She accepted. Then the next day refused and I never heard from her for 2 weeks. She at this point went back to her home country as she finished uni. I decided to be romantic and fly 12 hours and see her to tell her I’m sorry for hurting her and that I love her. I told her 2 days before I came. I got there and found out the guy she has been seeing has followed her and is in her country with her! That killed me. We still spent the week together and she did sleep with me while she was with him.
After the week ended I got home things started getting even more complicated. She would call says she can’t stop thinking about me, we always speak for hours, then the day after would say it can’t work and to not contact her again. Then we would go for a month without speaking and she would get in touch again saying she misses, speak for hours then she would go cold turkey on me again! She did this 3 times from Jan/march. She then tells me that he got her a ticket to Europe as his visa was expiring and had to leave and wanted her to go with him. And she said that she is thinking of coming to see me after. I felt like second best, I said if she wants to see me to come to me and forget him. SIMPLE. She said she can’t, maybe because the guy dropped everything for her and moved right away she felt like she couldn’t let him down? I don’t know. I spoke to some girlfriends and they said they would do the same, because he has done so much that even if she cares for me she probably isn’t in a position to hurt him. I think if she really cared she would have done the right thing.
Anyway now she is in Europe with him. She has been in contact every few weeks saying the same thing that she misses etc. Then the day after she would blank me and say it can’t work. The last time she did it I told her it was enough, that she has done too much damage and that if she didn’t do anything about it I will never take her back, this was 3 weeks ago. She replied the next day saying she can't so I ignored the message and I deleted her number all images etc. and decided to move on. Haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve made up my mind. I’m going to the gym, working hard and learning a new language to keep busy. I have also stopped smoking weed which was not helping. I went through such a hard time, never been so depressed, it made me blind to what she was doing. Still didn’t stop my feelings towards though.
I am feeling sooo much better, I still do care for her a little and I wish things didn’t turn out like this. I guess that will go with time. I made my choice and she made hers. So anyway, now in the last 2 weeks I realize that she has blocked and unblocked me on Facebook around 5 times!
Does this mean anything? I was thinking of just blocking her the next time she does that. I just want to know what this means out of curiosity. Should I block her?
Someone please advise, she is 24 and I’m 25.
Thanks.