Ask Me Help Desk - Dating/ Marriage of a Wiccan

My question has to do with dating and/or Marriage. I don't claim to be a born again Christian but I am of the Christian faith and I believe in God, and that he gave his son to wash away our sins. I know that in the Wicca faith that you worship more than one God or Goddess. But to be fair, I have to be nonjudgemental of other faiths. I can't believe everyone who is not Christian will go to hell. My questian is: I a Christian ever found themselves interested in a Wiccan, Would that relatioship be possible considering the differences in beliefs? I mean no disrespect, I just simply don't know.

I'm a Lutheran pastor's daughter and know that Lutherans would welcome someone of another faith into their midst. That person would not be able to take Communion, but would be able to participate in all other activities such as Bible classes, church suppers, various social activities on and off the church property, etc.

Other church bodies would have various rules for participation, but I can't think of any Protestant group (except maybe an extremely fundamentalist one) that would refuse to have a Wiccan around.

***ADDED The hope would be that the Christians would be able to positively influence the Wiccan to maybe even convert to Christianity. At least, they would converse in a God-pleasing way and be able to search for common themes in their belief systems.

Well first of all the issue isn't about having a Wiccan "around". The issue is whether there is a problem with a Christian and Wiccan having a relationship.

Let me say first that you can't be a Christian without being a born again Christian. Belief in the Christian god-head does not make you a Christian.

James 2:19
You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.

Christianity has to do with your relationship with Christ.. and if you are not "born again", that relationship simply does not exist. But for the sake of conversation let's say you ARE born again...

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

If you want to date a Wiccan girl... go for it. Just don't pretend to be a Christian in the process. If you profess to be a Christian, I suggest you read up on what the Bible says about following Christ.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I'm a Lutheran pastor's daughter and know that Lutherans would welcome someone of another faith into their midst. That person would not be able to take Communion, but would be able to participate in all other activities such as Bible classes, church suppers, various social activities on and off the church property, etc.

Other church bodies would have various rules for participation, but I can't think of any Protestant group (except maybe an extremely fundamentalist one) that would refuse to have a Wiccan around.

***ADDED The hope would be that the Christians would be able to positively influence the Wiccan to maybe even convert to Christianity. At least, they would converse in a God-pleasing way and be able to search for common themes in their belief systems.

Thank you! That was hlpful. I'll take a look. This situation hasn't come to pass yet. But I wanted to know before I pursued it, Thanks again.

I think it depends how much your beliefs affect your day to day life (if that makes any sense). Most people don't think the rest of the world is going to hell, just because of different religions, but people still marry/date in the same religion because of the similarities they share.

You have to take into consideration the situations that may arise because of the difference in religions. For example, will any children you have be wiccan or christian? Will you still celebrate christian holidays? Will your significant other support you in your religious endeavors? Would it bother you if they wouldn't want to attend services with you? Would you feel comfortable attending one of their religious services if they asked? How will your family react to this? Where would the wedding be held and of what faith if any would it be part of?

It's really the silly little things that no one thinks about that can have a big difference in situations like this.

It depends on how strongly you both feel about your faith and how accepting you are of the others. If you are strong in your Christian faith and adhere to it, you are going to have problems with this other person's beliefs.

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It depends on how strongly you both feel about your faith and how accepting you are of the others. If you are strong in your Christian faith and adhere to it, you are going to have problems with this other person's beliefs.

That was exactly my point. If you, as the Christian, take your faith seriously it simply cannot work out for the good. It's not about "accepting" other people's beliefs... it's about guarding your personal walk with God as a Christian... knowing that it is forbidden in His revealed word. That doesn't mean hate others and be intolerant of them... but simply do not let them in to that personal circle of influence in your life.

Remember how Israel started circling the toilet once Solomon allowed the surrounding pagan people's influence in to their worship and rule.

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Originally Posted by hauntinghelper

Remember how Israel started circling the toilet once Solomon allowed the surrounding pagan people's influence in to their worship and rule.

This will be one Wiccan up against lots of Christians.

I missed this because I was out of town.

I am a Wiccan. My husband is Christian. It works just fine, because we respect each other's beliefs---and talk often about our son's religious upbringing.

ALL of the major religions have the same basic tenets to them: Love one another, and do no harm. Wiccans do not believe in multiple gods and goddesses--rather, we believe that all gods are one god and all goddesses are one goddess, and it does not matter which name you choose to call them. We do, however, have a primary focus on the Lady rather than on the Lord, though the Lord is worshipped as well.

I enjoy going to Christian church services when there is brotherhood and compassion being preached. I do not return to churches where other faiths are denigrated or where hate is preached---and by hate, I mean any talk about other religions being evil or about burning witches or condemning your fellow man because he does not believe as you do. GOD is merciful, and judgment belongs to GOD, not to his followers.

If you can't get past dogma and focus on converting the Wiccan, then your relationship will never work. Christianity is not superior to Wicca. They are both valid religions with good ideas. If you can't accept that the other person's religion is equal to yours, and has equal weight, then you may as well give up.

Wicca does not generally teach rituals to children. They can be present during rituals, but as most Wiccans practice either on their own or with a small coven, children are not present for most rituals. We do not believe in consecrating someone against their will to a religion, so the baptism thing had to be discussed in our household, and put on hold until our son is old enough to ask to be baptised himself. Most religious teaching in our house happens in everyday discussions that are age-appropriate. My son goes to church with our extended families on major holidays, and I talk to him about Wiccan high days and what they represent when those days come. We celebrate both faiths in our house, which means we have a Christmas tree, and Solstice gifts. It means we have the Easter Bunny come and have a spring celebration at the Equinox. It means he gets gifts for the first day of summer (small ones) in recognition that it s equally as important as the first day of winter.

It CAN work. You just have to be very willing to talk, talk, talk and compromise, compromise, compromise.

I have found, however, that many very religious Christians cannot and will not compromise on issues of faith. Their opinion is that anyone who is NOT Christian is condemned for not believing in Jesus. If you can't get past the part of Wicca where Jesus is just one name for the Lord, and that how a person acts is more important than what they give lip service to in church, then you can never make an inter-faith relationship work.

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Originally Posted by hauntinghelper

James 2:19
You believe that there is one God. Good! Even the demons believe that—and shudder.

Yup... I believe there is one God. And one Goddess. And that every religion calls them by a different name. So far, no problems with the two religions

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Originally Posted by hauntinghelper

2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

I am a believer! It does not specify in this verse that you must believe in CHRIST. Just that you are a believer. For what it's worth, I believe that Christ is one aspect of the Lord. Still no issues between the faiths!

I probably know the Bible as well as you do, and can interpret it as well as you do, even if we end up with different interpretations. This is why I have always thought that Christians using the Bible as LAW instead of GUIDANCE is silly---because it's all in HOW you read it.

You can believe how you want, but please do not denigrate other religions simply because you like yours best. I like mine best too, and think that yours is wrong. That does not mean that I am saying that your religion is causing the world to go down the toilet.

Please be respectful of the beliefs of others.

I am Wiccan, my husband is catholic, my son is too. I don't worship many gods, just one. Our mixture has not caused any problems. Wiccans are very low key and do not push worship on other people.

By the way, our name means, in essence, 'wise people'.

I suggest OP read up on the 'Wicca'. There are a lot of misunderstandings.

I was raised a Protestant, but when times are tough, I think wistfully of religions like Hinduism, where each god and goddess has different jobs (for lack of a better word). But I'm too lazy and too leary of all religions to change anything. I like the historical Jesus, what he did and said in his time. I like Buddha and some aspects of Buddhism. I'm glad to hear more here about Wiccans. I knew practically nothing.