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  • Apr 22, 2013, 06:40 PM
    freedom2013
    Red Flags!
    I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months. He had a girlfriend who he dated for 3 years before hand and cheated on him. He is now very jealous all the time and unsure about who I'm talking to and what I'm up to when he's not there. I have never cheated and I care a lot for my boyfriend. We live 3 hrs from each other so the distance has been a bit of an issue but I enjoy driving down to see him. I have a few situations I need to share in order to know what steps I need to take now.

    He has called me names and told me to **** off many times because he doesn't get something his way or he's jealous. When he drinks he usually breaks up with me because he thinks I care for someone else or I did something behind his back. I told him that I didn't see us in a relationship anymore and he said that I'm giving up to soon and that he's going to seek help but I need to be by his side. Its been at least 5 or 6 times he has put me in a bad situation by going threw my phone or calling me out on something that I didn't do or was feeling. He said he will get help and he knows he has issues but he can't live without me and needs me in his life. He wanted me to move in but its been 5 months and we are having a lot of problems.

    Please Help!
  • Apr 22, 2013, 06:46 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Way too much drama for a 5 month relationship. The name calling, anger and jealousy is unacceptable. I'd walk away. It can only get worse.
  • Apr 23, 2013, 04:39 AM
    Oliver2011
    I agree with Homegirl. These behaviors typically don't improve. Find someone who treats you well.
  • Apr 23, 2013, 08:28 AM
    JudyKayTee
    I believe this part is true - "He said ... he can't live without me and needs me in his life."

    You are being held hostage.

    I believe he can't live without you and needs you in his life. The bigger question is can you live without him and do you need him (and his drama and ill treament and disrespect) in your life?
  • Apr 24, 2013, 07:46 PM
    freedom2013
    Im having a hard time studying now for my RPN exam because I'm so upset that I let myself get treated like this. I ended things with him the other day. He said he's going to see someone and that he loves me and he hopes for another chance. I wrote down all the issues we have been through in the last 5 months and there is way to many. I just wish I could clear my head and get some studying done. I have 2 weeks till my exam and I'm don't feel ready to write.
  • Apr 25, 2013, 06:17 AM
    Homegirl 50
    You will get it done. You have done the right thing, now remind yourself of your bright future.
    Good luck on the exam.

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