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I need help I'm 20 OK I got married at 17 was with the guy since I was 13 we have a 2 year old little girl , she is my world and he is a amazing father. The situation is this he hasn't worked for over a year now going on two and I have been I work all day every day and support our daughter and him , I come home to a dirty nasty house no foodcooked nothing , then when I Get home he's out the door playing with his car or something , we don't talk we don't make love , I try to communicate with him its like talking to a wall , I met someone else who I have been having a affair with for little over a year on and off
So you started the affair before he was out of work. He's been out of work for a year, you've been having an affair for more than a year. So obviously the issues with him not working, or a messy house, weren't the reason for the affair.
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I have ended my affair in effort to save my marriage nothing but the save bull , arguments fighting and nonsense , I love him yes I worry about him allot and still care , I admitted my affair once to him , he got upset then right away we were back to normal , I am again having a affair with the same guy
You didn't end the affair, you're still in it. What have you done to actually save your marriage? Do you think that having an affair is helping your marriage?
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I'm not justifying what I'm doing because I know I'm wrong but I'm unsatisfied and unhappy I don't know what to do or what I'm sad and I don't want to live like this
You are the one that chose to have an affair. If you don't want to live like this, then why are you making these choices?
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I feel like Im to young and need help please , I'm scared to leave and don't know what to do because of our child , no Im not saying I Want to leave him for the other guy OK just seeing what I should do I wish we could save our marriage but I don't see how, it seems like he's not attracted to me sexually mentally our physically and I guess that was the reason for my affair to feel beautiful and wanted ( please someone help...
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You are young, and that's why adults always tell teens and young adults that they're not ready for a long term commitment. It's because they're not ready. Sadly, it's too late to go back and change things. You got married, you have a child, you have to grow up, and your age is not an excuse. You chose your path, now you have to find a way to walk that path.
Your husband is out of work during one of the worst times. It's not easy to get a job right now, even if you have a college degree. I'm guessing he doesn't. Being unemployed when you have a wife and child to support, is depressing. When you're depressed you don't feel like cleaning, you don't feel like being intimate.
You got married. Marriage isn't easy, it's work, and it takes work to make it work. Instead of trying to understand and support the man you married, you had an affair to fulfill your own needs,not carrying about anyone else's needs.
End the affair, support your husband, raise your child, get marriage counseling and learn that there are hard times in life. If you run off to make yourself happy every time things get tough, no relationship you have will ever work.
He knows about your affair. Do you expect him to just accept it? Would you if he had been the one to cheat? He was already depressed, and learning that the woman he married, the mother of his child, is cheating during a very hard time in his life, didn't make things better, it made his depression even worse.
Put on your big girl panties and realize that you have to be an adult now, because that's what you chose. You're not a child playing house, you're a married woman with a husband and child. Act like one!