I have been with my fiancée 5 years our sex life was great but 2 year ago she stopped having sex and cuddling me she don't even kiss me no more.

But I have 2 kids with her and if I break up with her she won't let me see my kids so I don't know what to do she even takes all my money and leave me with nothing.

So you want to leave? Are there other issues other than the lack of sex, and the money? Have you talked to each other about these issues?

For many women sex is not longer a priority once they have children, especially if they're the main caretakers, not only of the children, but the home as well. Being a mom is a full time job. Do you help with the kids, the housework, the cooking, the cleaning?

Remember that for a woman sex is emotional. If you can't get into our heads, you won't get into our pants. If we're mentally and physically exhausted, we won't be in the mood to give the man what he wants. Help around the house, be kind and understanding, and talk to her about how you feel. If you start with "I want sex, and you never give it to me" I hope you have a comfy couch because that's were you'll be sleeping. Put yourself in her shoes.

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Originally Posted by Alty

So you want to leave? Are there other issues other than the lack of sex, and the money? Have you talked to each other about these issues?

For many women sex is not longer a priority once they have children, especially if they're the main caretakers, not only of the children, but the home as well. Being a mom is a full time job. Do you help with the kids, the housework, the cooking, the cleaning?

Remember that for a woman sex is emotional. If you can't get into our heads, you won't get into our pants. If we're mentally and physically exhausted, we won't be in the mood to give the man what he wants. Help around the house, be kind and understanding, and talk to her about how you feel. If you start with "I want sex, and you never give it to me" I hope you have a comfy couch because that's were you'll be sleeping. Put yourself in her shoes.

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I just can't make her happy as she throws it back in my face I do love her

I do help with the kids and cleaning its me who cooks she even hits me for no reason and argues but I never hit women so I just take it

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Originally Posted by gary84

I do help with the kids and cleaning its me who cooks she even hits me for no reason and argues but I never hit women so I just take it

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If she's abusive you need to get out of this relationship. Just because you're a man and she's a woman, doesn't mean she should be allowed to hit you. Abuse is abuse, and no one should stay in that sort of relationship.

You mentioned that you stay because you don't want to lose your children. What makes you think you'll lose them? The children don't automatically go to the mother, especially if the father is the better parent.

From now on, when she hits you, call the police, have her charged. This will give you documentation about the kind of wife and mother she is.

It won't be easy, but if you continue to do nothing, you're accepting her treatment of you. Is she also abusive with the children?

Time to go and let the court sort it out. Does she work? Sex sound like the least of your problems.