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  • Mar 21, 2007, 01:27 PM
    sexmess
    Would this turn a lad off?
    Would it turn a lad off if they met a girl that was a virgin and has never been in a relationship before, didn't know what half the sex talk meant, didn't know how to carry out a fair amount of sexual moves?
    Would this annoy a lad, especially if they had had practise and experience in the past?

    Also is it true that ALL lads go into graphic details about the sex lives with their mates?
  • Mar 21, 2007, 01:39 PM
    iAMfromHuntersBar
    I expect the answer to both questions will differ from lad to lad!

    To be honest, I'd see it as more of a turn on if anything. Without being too crass, if you haven't slept with anyone else, you have nothing to compare me to and so I can relax and enjoy the whole experience much more!

    Does your boyfriend know that this is the situation?

    And no, not ALL lads go into graphic detail, some of us know better than that!
  • Mar 21, 2007, 01:46 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    First real men don't talk a lot of sex talk in front of girls they are not closer to. It is just not done in proper society,

    And those who want trashy ladies, will want trashy ladies, and that is what they deserve. But those that respect you for what you are, will be the ones you want to be with. If they don't respect you for you, then you really don't need them anyway
  • Mar 21, 2007, 01:52 PM
    sexmess
    IAMfromJuntersBar - I do not actually have a boyfriend at current, relationships scare me as I do not know how you could ever trust anyone. I just have lots of unanswered questions as I do not really have anyone to talk to about my concerns. I do like someone at the moment, but I'm scared of committing myself to anything!

    Fr_Chuk - are you suggesting that men may talk to other men about sex stories?

    Would a lad be hurt if you asked him not to discuss "their love life" around work?
  • Mar 21, 2007, 02:01 PM
    iAMfromHuntersBar
    For millions of people relationships are about trial and error. I understand your concerns about getting hurt and hopefully this will never happen, but if you never get close to anyone you'll never have the amazing highs that go with the lows!

    I think the majority of men would would respect your wishes on a whole, most people I know are very vague about their love lifes, which is great, because it's as much as I want to know!
  • Mar 21, 2007, 02:04 PM
    sexmess
    Thanks, I think I worry too much, but at the end of the day I think its good to have concerns, but I do think I need to losen up a bit and just enjoy life while I'm young, I guess I will learn from my mistakes (if any are made!) thanks guys!
  • Mar 21, 2007, 02:18 PM
    TrueFaith
    Hey they.. for us guys well at least for me.. it does not bother me.. when your with someone you grow together.. in everyway and that means sexual... normaly the first time is great.. but it does get better and better over time as you learn about each others body.. first time with anyone womone is the first time for us guys :)

    And yeah its all about learning.. everyone on this earth has issues.. enjoy yourself :) and don't worrie if any guy does see it as a turn off... then he isn't even worth your time!

    Keep you eye out for the good ones ;)

    Good luck

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