Ask Me Help Desk - Clearing the air

My ex and I been apart for 5 years we were together 7 years, strong we have two adorable children together. I went my way after he decided to leave to find his self! He was in a new relationship with another woman they were suppose to get married I was happy for him and her things didn't work out with that! However I was and a relationship and was about to get married as well but the guy I was with had other women on the side I called it off. My kids father want to clear the air we been on good terms for years now times 2 for our children how can I go about this talk with him it's been so long I think ima freeze help me out please ; )

A couple of things...

Why are you so quick to get married? I might be jumping to conclusions here but you need to get to know these guys better before saying "I do".

Second as you stated your husband and you share two wonderful kids together. Regardless of what happens with your relationship you two will be forever connected because of those kids. So I see no issue clearing the air with him as long as it is productive. That means no finger pointing, no blaming, and just talk about what will be good for your children.

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

A couple of things...

Why are you so quick to get married? I might be jumping to conclusions here but you need to get to know these guys better before saying "I do".

Second as you stated your husband and you share two wonderful kids together. Regardless of what happens with your relationship you two will be forever connected because of those kids. So I see no issue clearing the air with him as long as it is productive. That means no finger pointing, no blaming, and just talk about what will be good for your children.

Thanks but No Thanks!
Yes you are surely jumping, to conclusions I am not quick at all to get married, I don't have a husband I DIDN'T go through with the getting married part because the other guy started cheating after the proposal I just thank GOD I had my eyes open for that! It's only been TWO guys My kids father and the other guy I was about to give the rest of my life to. Now with my kids father it's always been about our kids I think it's more to it after 5 years and he want to talk his relationship went sour so did mines hopefully you have a clear understanding now sorry about that!