So I get introduced to a new department about 3 years ago.

I am brought in by a guy who seems like a straight shooter that values my abilities and potential.

Mistakes Happened:
Later on I am invited to his house, wined and dined, we shoot the normal crap.
Eventually he suggests that I move into an apartment with his son knowing that I am looking for a place to live after a recent separation from my wife.

I do so. I find his kid 20 something years old, has a criminal history and history of drug abuse.

Down the line he sends me an email on a work computer asking me to call him.

I do and he is drunk as a skunk asking me to talk to his youngest son.

I ask his youngest son what's up and his son replies, "Yeah moms got some friends in town and they want to relive old times and was wondering if you knew where to get some coke for them."

I felt dirty as heck and have since been wanting to leave my job because of it.
I worry about retaliation.
I also worry because none of this is prove-able.

The workplace does not do random drug testing and I wish it did.

This was more than a year ago. The stress is causing me to loose wait, and not trust anyone at my job that is associated with him.

I am currently looking for employment elsewhere and cannot wait to get as far away from where I currently work as possible.

Anything else I should do?

Who is drunk as a skunk? The guy who brought you in or the twenty something you are living with?

This whole thing confuses me - did you prove the drugs, not provide the drugs, something in between?

The employee/"employer" relationship seems, at best, strange to me, something not quite right.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

This whole thing confuses me - did you prove the drugs, not provide the drugs, something in between?

The employee/"employer" relationship seems, at best, strange to me, something not quite right.

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Yes it is very messy. I didn't realize that until I started reading around different HR websites and forums. The biggest problem is that I allowed myself to interact with him outside of the workplace. I asked people at work what to do about it.

I denied his attempts to invite me over after about the third visit as politely as I could. I made excuses etc.

You do not have to impress upon me how unethical and awkward this thing "seems" I know it to be as such.

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Originally Posted by Juiceatob

Who is drunk as a skunk? The guy who brought you in or the twenty something you are living with?

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The manager, the guy who brought me into the department from the floor.

"I felt dirty as heck and have since been wanting to leave my job because of it.
I worry about retaliation.
I also worry because none of this is prove-able. "

I still don't know why you are "dirty as heck". What happened? He asked you to provide drugs, you did provide drugs, something else - ?

I think someone does have to impress the strangeness of the situation upon you if it's a year later, drugs are involved and you are still there, still in contact. You are aware that if someone is arrested you could be next, right?

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

"I felt dirty as heck and have since been wanting to leave my job because of it.
I worry about retaliation.
I also worry because none of this is prove-able. "
*EDIT* This board is mishandling my posts. I posted that I told his son I was disappointed that he would ask me to talk to his son about getting drugs for him(manager). *EDIT*

I still don't know why you are "dirty as heck". What happened? He asked you to provide drugs, you did provide drugs, something else - ?

I think someone does have to impress the strangeness of the situation upon you if it's a year later, drugs are involved and you are still there, still in contact. You are aware that if someone is arrested you could be next, right?

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I'm still there for benign reasons. Stating them would make me easily identifiable to the person in question.

No drugs were provided. All interaction has stopped.

It seems that this situation is too messy to get advice for without peaking curiosity and provoking cynical efforts toward incriminating me. Im guessing my best bet is to just do what I have been and get the hell away from the company and the person.

This is the end of my communication.

Let me also suggest in case you haven't figured it out... I think you have though...

Getting as deeply involved as you did right in the beginning was too much. You shouldn't have taken an apartment with the son no matter what... it crosses the line between work and personal life. Learn from this and avoid the situation in the future. Never become too close to higher-ups in a company.

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Originally Posted by Juiceatob

Who is drunk as a skunk? The guy who brought you in or the twenty something you are living with?

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The guy who brought him in

Your mistake was not turning around and running as soon as you realized the son was a low life. Now get out as soon as you can!