My boyfriend of four years broke up a little less than a week ago. He contact me everyday and we talk probably once a day even when I told him its best we have no contact at all he will still find a reason to call. He broke up with me. He's told me maybe we should take time to think about getting ourselves together I'm in school and he's working I'm 26 n he's 32. We've lied to each other n he said I don't communicate with him very well. I don't speak a lot . We have a lot of history together... he wants to keep all the pictures we ever took together. And he is very sexual which I think I have a low labido. Maybe that's the reason he want to go off but he always checking to see if I'm doing good in school n say I should call him if I need anything... I'm so confused... break two NC.. back on no contact first day... HELP!!

You have to be the one who is strong. Obviously he wants it both ways - and how fair is that to you? Does he realize how much he hurt you, just by breaking up? I'm trying to get you to be angry, justifiably angry.

Thanks for your respond... ur right I am really hurt.. He also asked me not to let any other man drive the car we both paid for which was his now I own.. down and out thank you though.

No Contact is for you to heal and it starts with you not allowing him to contact you. How dare he tell you what to do with your car!! Know any cuss words!!

I know... I said to him " I thought it was my car now?" he said " yea, but it just wouldn't be right knowing that I was driving it before"... but honestly my heart still ache for him. I'm not ginna lie he was very nice to me helped me out a lot which I did for him too. He always told me about me not really communicating with him or pushing him away sexually I mean I do believe it's half my fault as well. I really miss him badly... last time he called me to tell me he's going to Jamaica with his mom which I know personally he's not lying but y call me telling me about what u got going on. When I moved out he kept questioning if I'm really staying with my mom like I said. I replied yes. Then he asked if I'm telling him the truth... y would he be asking these questions...

He's really still in love with you and wants to get back together. He's still wanting to know how you are coping. He did this to make you feel insecure and miss him because he's a nasty person like that. I bet that if you just ignored him for a week or so or pretended that you were doing fine without him in your life he will come running back. He doesn't want you to move on. Stick to no contact for at least a week even if he contacts you and I think he will eventually come crawling back, if you accept him back is up to you. Personally, I would just move on. I would not want to be with anyone who would do something to hurt me like that. Keep us posted on how it goes.

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Originally Posted by Nikkinyiel

I know...I said to him " I thought it was my car now?" he said " yea, but it just wouldn't be right knowing that I was driving it before"...but honestly my heart still ache for him. I'm not ginna lie he was very nice to me helped me out a lot which I did for him too. He always told me about me not really communicating with him or pushing him away sexually I mean I do believe it's half my fault as well. I really miss him badly....last time he called me to tell me he's going to Jamaica with his mom which I know personally hes not lying but y call me telling me about what u got going on. When I moved out he kept questioning if I'm really staying with my mom like I said. I replied yes. Then he asked if I'm telling him the truth ...y would he be asking these questions...

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He doesn't want you to move on from him quickly so he keeps in contact and wants you to keep thinking of him. Its like putting your foot in the door to keep it open. Its not a good thing, but he doesn't want any one else to have you, and to continue being available for him.

Enforce strict NO CONTACT with him forever and you will be surprised that after a proper healing, you will wonder what the fuss over him was about. You are still in hock.

Talaniman Rule - When you get dumped, disappear from their lives.

First I would like to thank you guys for replying to me.. u have all been really sweet n I appreciate this so much especially at time like this... well 2 days ago I after he called to say he's leaving to Jamaica I text him to say that I think we should just stop texting and calling each other n that it's not helping either of us, that I don't need the false hope and I need closer... But I also wished him a safe flight, which I don't know if that boosted his ego... His exact reply was " OK THANKS NIKKI, I WILL NIKKI"... He hasn't called or text back since. He suppose to leave in two days. I'm planning to keep this NC going even after he returns. I feel stupid saying this but I still want to be with him.. Pathetic I know.. :-(... but we've been together 4 years living together for 3 it's really hard.

I know its hard but it gets better. Takes time. One day at a time. Still sucks though.