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  • Mar 21, 2007, 09:11 AM
    BigNe
    During sex.
    My girlfriend has a fantastic sex drive but sometimes a bit overwhelming. She is like a panther waiting to pounce. During sex she has at least 7 orgasms to the point of shaking all over but give her 30 minutes and she is back on form for more. HELP!!

    How can I calm her down.

    She drives me wild but the general just can't keep up with the pace, I have also used other methods (toys/hands etc) but she says they are not as good as the real thing.

    I worn out. HELP!!
  • Mar 21, 2007, 09:17 AM
    Wildcat21
    This is a problem?

    Has to be a joke.
  • Mar 21, 2007, 09:17 AM
    jonjons1girl
    Try to get her to see you need some time of real passion at the end of it. Like holding her, caressing her, talking, and such. She should like the idea of this and it should give you a little time to catch up. On the other hand--- Let her know how you feel. That you love it but you need a slower pace between rounds if possible so that you can maximize the potential of great sex for her and yourself.
  • Mar 21, 2007, 09:25 AM
    Wildcat21
    I don't see this as a problem. As long he gets off most of the time. Mosyt guys would be happy with one

    Hey - if you need some help...

    Kidding.
  • Mar 22, 2007, 07:38 AM
    BigNe
    We still do the caressing and holding of each other, sometimes we even fall asleep and I have even told her that I am knackered and she has calmed down from when we first met but if she doesn't calm down anymore it will fall off.

    Don't get me wrong, I orgasm every time because she drives me wild but I am so knackered. I don't want to lose this girl because I love her to pieces but my god I am even staying at work to have a break.

    I think the main problem is that she knows how to entice me and even when I try to resist and pretend I am not interested, the old trouser snake rears his head and says otherwise.
    All she has to do is kiss me while pulling our bodies in together and just the touch of her gets me going and as soon as she realises this is like - lets go!!

    Oh and Wildcat21 I may be taking you up on the offer! :)
  • Mar 22, 2007, 08:11 AM
    Wildcat21
    Ok - any time! Ha!

    Dude - this isn't a problem at all - don't tell anyone!! You're lucky man - you don't have a deadfish.

    Dude - this all is a GOOD THING!!
  • Mar 22, 2007, 08:14 AM
    Capuchin
    I don't agree with you at all Wildcat. It's already beginning to push their relationship apart as he is spending longer at work to stay away from this. It's an obstacle in their relationship, and your male bravado just is not helpful at all.

    BigNe, have you talked to her about this?
  • Mar 22, 2007, 08:29 AM
    BlazingCold
    BigNe, you have to tell HER about your feelings about the sex issue. She won't know unless you tell her directly. If she does care about you, she will try to make things more comfortable for you.
  • Mar 22, 2007, 08:31 AM
    BigNe
    Yes I have spoken to her about it many times.

    It is not pushing our relationship apart, I just need some tips on other ways to please her.

    Like I said she drives me wild and the reason I stay at work longer is to try and focus on not being turned on when I see her - she is so hot!!

    Oh sorry forgot to say - could her sex drive be anything to do with her doing porn before she met me?
  • Mar 22, 2007, 08:55 AM
    Capuchin
    Apologies, I misunderstood :)
  • Mar 22, 2007, 09:05 AM
    BigNe
    Apology not necessary just didn't explain everything fully.
  • Mar 22, 2007, 09:08 AM
    missk
    All I got to say is if you can't hang-she'll probably go somewhere else. I don't think there is anything you can do to slow her sex drive-it's nature... Good Luck With That!
  • Mar 22, 2007, 09:09 AM
    missk
    Never mind what I said -I didn't read the finding ways to please her part... sorry
  • Mar 22, 2007, 09:56 AM
    jessi_13
    Want you just sit her down and talk to her and tell her that she's going to have to stop (if it bothers you that much) she might get mad but she'll get over it if she love's you she won't do anything to hurt you
  • Mar 22, 2007, 10:06 AM
    saraispiel19
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  • Mar 22, 2007, 11:39 AM
    Wildcat21
    Do you use your hands? Be soft - let her guide you.

    Oral... you learn to be a champ in this area. Do you know about the ?

    You have you hands and mouth... use them! Be gentle, be soft. There are websites to guide you thorugh this - I would - but I have already gotten too graphic.
  • Mar 22, 2007, 02:01 PM
    talaniman
    I like the suggestion to let her do the work and you take it easier, but there is no substitute for talking honestly.
  • Mar 22, 2007, 02:37 PM
    mkkraje
    Hahaha wow women like this exist? No seriously this must be a joke
  • Mar 23, 2007, 08:23 AM
    Wildcat21
    Yeah - I don't see this as problem - they'll work it out.
  • Sep 24, 2012, 12:01 AM
    Chandi92
    Well obviously it's a problem if its bothering him, but it could be an intense orgasm? Does it ever feel that way to you? If not, if it feels abnormal and is something to concern you, then maybe consider just seeing a doctor to see if its common and if not then get more information from your doc to see what could be causing this. But at least you got a girl who finds you irresistible and loves to have sex. Good job :)

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