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  • Apr 11, 2013, 07:47 PM
    josh comer
    My fiancé wants to be a stripper to help get a house for us.
    I’m 19 and my fiancé is 18. We are currently living at my parents’ house due to some pretty unfortunate events. I use to work on a strip mine making some good money but my mines closed down leaving me with no other income but an unemployment check. Also my check is in one hand and out the other.

    She believes she can get us a house with stripping. Now my thoughts are hell no hell no hell no. But we’ve talked about it and she said she would be doing it for just financial purposes only. And quit when we have enough.

    Truth be told I am head over heels in love with this girl we’ve been together for over 2 years and I’m ready to get married to here. So should I let her do this for us to start our lives together what are your opinions please help!! Josh.
  • Apr 11, 2013, 07:56 PM
    Alty
    Obviously you're not okay with it, otherwise you wouldn't be asking.

    So the question is, can you live with this decision of hers? Can you accept that other men will see her naked, have sexual thoughts about her, get lap dances from her where she will be in contact with them, put money in her g-string because they like what they see?

    If you can accept all of that, than fine. If you can't, you really do have a right to tell her that this is something you don't like and can't accept.

    If she can't understand, ask her how she'd feel if you decided to be a male escort for a while. After all, it's not like you'd enjoy it, but it would be good money. I doubt she'd be okay with it.

    Bottom line, if this really bothers you, which it would most men and women, then tell her, because this could end up destroying your relationship. Why can't she get a job somewhere else?
  • Apr 11, 2013, 08:25 PM
    talaniman
    Getting a house is one thing, keeping it is another. Fighting over how she makes her money is pretty is pretty useless if she is determined and add to that you never know what you will be earning, I sure would caution you for a better plan.

    I mean if she strips for a down payment, will she also strip for mortgage payments too? Think this through, as things seldom work out the way we planned it and a stripper career pushes egos and can cause many problems at 4 am. And you are home alone going nuts.

    Wonder what her parents think? Keep talking, good easy money often has a high price to pay. Or manage your money MUCH better. That takes a plan too.
  • Apr 11, 2013, 08:56 PM
    josh comer
    To both of ypu thank you for yalls input highly appreciated. Now that I can talk to someone who will give me the truth without beating around the bush here in a couple months new mines are opineing up and ill have my
    High paying job back and I can keep the house by my check . For her parents knowing of corse it'll be a hell no for a answer but unlike most of the teenagers of my genaration I take being a adult very seriouslly I've mecer been late to work and I pay my mother 100 bucks a week for is to stay here and I've never missed a payment no matter hpw much I've wanted to keep it I think ove jumped the gun on the whole situation I should be having fun so I don't have any regrets later on in my life I think I wants to do other things rather than to settle down its just not me but I love her very much its like I wish I met her when I was 24 or 25 but I didn't
  • Apr 12, 2013, 04:12 AM
    Fr_Chuck
    it is a matter of values, and trust, A stripper will be seen either completely naked or almost naked. Men will think about sex with them. The men may try to touch, ( how much will depend on level of club)

    Most are not hookers and most never have sex with clients, but men will be asking her several times a night. Most of the strippers I knew from my younger day were actually either lesbian or bi, and preferred each other over the men.

    they make good money and I have known many who paid for their college this way.

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