I don't know what to do. My fiancé and I met in September of last year and fell in love right away, we got engaged the next month and shortly after moves in together. We work very well together and are very happy, there is just one thing... We NEVER have sex. It's not like we were having sex like rabbits in the beginning, but it was at least once a week. Now we go weeks without having sex. It's been almost 2 months since last time. We have talked about it and he claims his job stresses him out so much that he doesn't even consider sex. Now I know his job is stressful but really?! I am on depression medicine so my sex drive is low anyway, but I'm missing the intimacy and passion that goes along with making love. HELP!

More info: I'm 26 he is 27. I do not believe it's a cheating issue what so ever. Also, yes my looks have changed for the better, I have lost over 30lbs since we have been together and he is supportive of my weight loss (I was overweight before)

Have you talked to him about it?

I see everything in the fact you met and moved in together in less than 2 months. (you never got to know each other first)

Combine that with the stress of his job.

And seriously... to have sex as a female all you have to do is spread your legs ( yeah I know actually enjoying it is far more complicated)... but a guy doesn't get an erection at will in the way of I'm going to raise my arm now... then raises it.

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And seriously... to have sex as a female all you have to do is spread your legs

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But it's quite uncomfortable, even painful if you just 'spread your legs' without any buildup. Probably like getting a handjob with sandpaper, if you can really call that a sexual act.

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Originally Posted by backpack2389

But it's quite uncomfortable, even painful if you just 'spread your legs' without any buildup. Probably like getting a handjob with sandpaper, if you can really call that a sexual act.

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Oh.. I completely agree... the difference is... with a little lube you can do it.. what's a guy going to do if he's not into it? Popsicle sticks and duck tape?

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Oh..I completely agree....the difference is ...with a little lube you can do it...., whats a guy going to do if he's not into it? Popsicle sticks and duck tape?

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Hmmm... probably not, though I would pay to see it attempted. But, Viagra? Cialis? A pump? Those aids are more or less akin to what lube is for women - when the artifacts of arousal are lacking, you give 'things' a boost. You could do it with enough determination, it just might not be very successful or comfortable or fast paced. But, at any rate, point taken.