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  • Apr 7, 2013, 10:57 AM
    shelby88
    I lost trust in my boyfriend
    We have been together for almost 10months and I told him everything about my past but didn't tell him I couldn't bear children... I didn't want to tell him then cause I was scared of losing him... He also has hez shortcomings and I have bore them with him... When I told him I couldn't conceive, he flared that a woman's heart is very deep and that why didn't I tell him all that and I gave him my reasons but now he doesn't trust or evn love me anymore... dat I loved him in falsehood and pretense... Am confused... I need answers plssssss
  • Apr 9, 2013, 01:14 AM
    weendybezarius
    It's only 10months
    Having kids that quick ?
    If he really loved you it wouldn't matter if you had that problem
    Plus it takes time to tell certain things to one an other
    So he shouldn't feel like he can't trust you ? That's ridiculous.
  • Apr 9, 2013, 01:41 AM
    shelby88
    @ wendy,he doesn't even want to talk to me anymore... And I love him so much already... He didn't find out elsewhere.. I told him myself.
  • Apr 9, 2013, 04:49 AM
    weendybezarius
    Oh I apoligize
    I misunderstood
    Well then try to see someone else for the meantime and forget about him.
    He's not worth it if he let go of you so quickly .
    I think He still should've been more understanding .
  • Apr 9, 2013, 05:59 AM
    backpack2389
    It would be hard to find the right time to tell someone about this. Personally, I think I might have mentioned it a sooner, even if it did seem like I was jumping the gun a bit. But, I don't think you waited too long either.

    At any rate, he is probably upset because he has strong feelings for you, ones that lead him to believe he might want a family with you someday, and that is why he has had this reaction to what you told him. I would give him a little time, let the news settle and let him think things over. After you've given him some space, try contacting him again and see what he says. This may be a relationship ender for him, but there are many other men who won't care (they won't want children or they'll want to adopt or they'd be fine with a surrogate) - they'll want any kind of family as long as it's with you.

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