I'm a 22 year old mechanic and I've been with my 20 year old girl friend who is a nursing student for just shy of 2 year. We've know each other since high school. My problem is that about 6 months ago I went on a work project with the military and I began talking to a fellow female sailor from a different unit. While there we were talking in more of a sexual manner than just friends but never did anything physical. Before I left on these orders, things weren't great at home because I worked too much on my civilian job and she was in collage. And I wasn't sure if I wanted to stay with her.

Well when I came back home to my girl friend everything was fine as far as I knew until about a month ago when she confronted me out of the blue about what I did when I was gone. I completely confessed to her but now after a month of me trying to make things better and she just can't seem to get past it even though I keep trying to help.

And right after she confronted me she started going and seeing friends she never saw before I left and just keeps secrets from me it feels. Plus all our conversations now seem to be arguments and it just feels like she isn't attracted to me anymore because I try to kiss her more than just saying hello or good bye and she freaks out like I have bad breath or like I'm too close to her face.

Also we were actually having sex before but not very often before I left and now she won't even sleep with me. I really do love her and every time I ask her if she loves me she say she does. I even changed jobs so I could be around more but now when we try to work our issues out all she says is I don't know how to do anything. Which than leads to a argument.

I'm just wondering if its worth staying and waiting for her to figure out how to get past this issue or cut my loses and move on with my life.

You Can't ask us the question if you should stay or go.

If you really love her then stay and talk through it.

If you don't care much about her then be friends but don't leave her broken down.

So its your decision not ours. But if she doesn't love you then maybe its time to move on... But remember your decision not ours.. :~)

You are both at an age to explore your new worlds and have a lot to distract you. I find it interesting you confess and can't figure out why she just can't get over it and go back to the fun physical stuff with you. I think you both are just use to each other and since you can't talk, take a break, or agree to break up.

That's usually what happens when you are young, confused, and easily distracted. Maybe you should go.