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  • Apr 5, 2013, 09:59 PM
    David90
    My girlfriend likes to meet people a lot , and I'm too jealous ,what should I do ?
    Hi everyone , well first I'm in love with her , she is my world , we both love each other , its just that I'm too jealous and I can say way too jealous , its not like I don't trust her , she actually knows every single detail in my life and I do the same , but she likes to meet new friends a lot and that pisses me off , what shall I do ? Please and thanks .
  • Apr 5, 2013, 10:01 PM
    Wondergirl
    You have no other friends besides her?
  • Apr 6, 2013, 05:32 AM
    Jake2008
    What do you do, or say, when this jealousy takes over, even though you know she isn't doing anything wrong? Why does this make you so angry?

    The surest way to ruin a relationship is find fault with your partner that they do not deserve.

    That you need to have constant reassurance, really wears a person down.

    Jealousy and anger, really means you are afraid. Maybe your own short comings are clouding your vision- for example this fear behind the jealousy might mean she will find someone better than you? Smarter? More outgoing?

    The fault is not hers. The problem is yours and yours alone. She can not keep babysitting and coddling you because you are a jealous and angry man.

    What it will eventually create, is her changing herself, in order for you to feel secure. When that starts, the problem still exists, and you need more control and coddling and will find ways to wear her down.

    Jealousy- particularly where there is no reason for it, is a problem, as I've said, of insecurity- for you. Not her. Insecurity masks fear. And fear of losing someone leads to control and going down that road will certainly end the relationship.

    Get help. Learn more about your reasons for feeling the way you do. Learn now, so that this jealousy does not end the relationship, only to see you in another relationship, with the same problem.
  • Apr 6, 2013, 10:32 PM
    Gsp123
    I think that you genuinely do love her very much, but that your love might be a bit misplaced. There is nothing wrong with having friends and making friends, some people just tend to be very social. I think you are worried that this will be a distraction to her and she will not be as attentive to you... but... if she enjoys making friends then she is going to be happy, and if she is happy she is going to make you happy!

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