So my girlfriend and I... we're really happy together. Genuinely happy. And no, we haven't had sex. Its been a few months of our official relationship 3 actually. But we've known and been close with each other for a year now. Anyway, sex.. is something that is really... thrown out there carelessly. And I'm not into that nor is she. But pre-marital sex, I don't see anyhting wrong with it, and yes I'm christian and I'm mature enough to know the consequences. She doesn't either, but her mom.. its not like its banned its just expectations y"know. So we're getting really.. I hate to say this.. but hot and heavy. But we just stopped for a minute and then we talked about it and she said about her mom and her parents expectations and then she broke down. I felt terrible. I feel that its my fault and I triggered it. I honestly do. But its not about me. I just want to know, what can I do? I already told her, we won't do anything like htat again, I know that its important and I will respect it, I love you no matter what. I told her that. And I mean it. But I just want to know, what can I do?

We're 16 and 17 by the way.

Stop the hot and heavy stuff and don't be alone where it can happen. Group date. Always stay visible to other people.

Don't put yourself, or her, in a situation where it can happen again. It's really hard to stay true to what you believe when you're young, your hormones are raging, and you're curious to know what it's all about. The best way to avoid doing something you will regret later, is to avoid the situations that can lead to sex. In other words, no more hot and heavy stuff.

You don't need to keep apologizing to her, it takes two to tango, and until things got too serious, she didn't put a stop to it. She's just as responsible as you are, so if you need to apologize, so does she.

Just avoid this in the future, get to know each other, and if it lasts you'll have plenty of time for sex when you're ready for it (being ready for sex means being ready to have and support a child). Until then there's plenty of fun times ahead that don't involve sex.

Good luck.