Can a form 982 be sent along with my return (requesting cancellation of debt) from a 1099-C (2008 debt lost job and car was given back $21k). Do I enter the figures or wait on the IRS to give me a ruling on the request?

RUN to a tax professional who has experience in filing Forms 1099-C to let him/her determine if filing Form 982 applies in your case. There are too many variables to consider to properly answer this question in this forum.