Ive been wanting to post this question but I'm so intimidated on people

Who will judge. I've been talking to this guy who became my boyfriend

For 2 years and 6 months now. We can't meet that easily because we're

8000 miles apart from each other He's in US and I'm in Asia and like

Most online relationships we cam and talk everyday. We always have talk

About being together but I know because of the distance its not that

Easy. We had fights and I could say we've been through a lot of pains

And acceptances which means he's not posing the perfect him to me. Met

His mom and dad and sister online for a couple of times he met my mom

And friends for a couple of times too. I would be in this relationship

For long I believe I can but its been over 2 years and I don't know how long am

I going to wait and if I can. He told me he will as often as he can but

Its only his words that I hold on to. Broke up with him more than once

Because of this but it would just hurt both of us. I love him a lot and

He makes me happy despite of everything I just don't know what to do

Anymore...

That's long time online but everything is fair in love! So don't think fool of yourself. People have waited for their lifetime for love, so nothing wrong if you waited for couple of years. I have been in a long distance relationship and we used to met twice a year. As you said you guys broke up online etc. I would suggest, it's time to see each other face to face. And before you broke up finally, its important to see each other in real. I know the distance is 8000 miles but for love it's nothing. Good luck.

How old are you, and why in over 2 years have you not visited each other, discout air fair to Asia can be 1500 US dollars. I fly China to US often

'its been over 2 years and I don't know how long am I going to wait and if I can.'

Wait for what? Has he promised to pay for you to visit? Move? You can't just move of course; it depends on immigration laws of the US and your country. Has he said he's move to your country? You are being vague about the specifics of what you expect. Does he have a job and money? Do you?
These may sold like cold questions but they are what it's all about.

He wants me to move up there I told him I will but he needs to be here first and to also see if its going to work in person He's working on having a job but ik even if he has one its not going to be soon and I'm aware about the immigration laws which makes it harder

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Originally Posted by smkanand

that's long time online but everything is fair in love! so don't think fool of yourself. people have waited for their lifetime for love, so nothing wrong if you waited for couple of years. I have been in a long distance relationship and we used to met twice a year. as you said you guys broke up online etc. I would suggest, it's time to see each other face to face. and before you broke up finally, its important to see each other in real. I know the distance is 8000 miles but for love it's nothing. good luck.

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Sigh If I could be hopeless romantic forver but I know I cant

So, what? Are you waiting for someone to tell you and give you reasons this is not going to work?

Those good people gave you a reason to regain your courage, and have patience. But it looks like you want to be convinced otherwise. To me it looks like you want to quit, you already know you want to end this. If it is time you are afraid to waste, than you don't have to do it, because to tell you the truth it will take some time.

Here is the only thing you need to know: It is either you wait until you meet in person, to see if you still want to go on with this. Or, just give up. It is your choice.
Don't worry; no one is going to judge you, you are only asking for an advice.

Hi I don't think its true that I want to end it and wants to be convinced to end it but I am guilty on questioning the potential of the relationship it is really going to take long I'm afraid I'm going to hurt and not going to be able to let go at the end of the day

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Originally Posted by Crazybee

Hi i dont think its true that i want to end it and wants to be convinced to end it but i am guilty on questioning the potential of the relationship it is really gonna take long im afraid im gonna hurt and not gonna be able to let go at the end of the day

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Okay, that is what I wanted to hear.

Really, you should not be afraid of something that can't touch you. Taking a chance and dating on line made you fall in love; maybe if you take another chance you will find happiness again. Maybe, maybe, and maybe no one here can guarantee you anything.

We all get hurt in different ways; if it is abusive pain, or of affection. Life is about taking chances, who knows it could all pay off at last. Or, you could be left devastated, these things happen all the time. Besides, don’t rush things you could at least wait, until you meet once in person to see if you want to hold on to this relationship.

Also, you are not alone, you must have a family member, a relative, or a friend who could help you get through it.