My sons forgot my birthday - AGAIN
I saw your old thread about this question or problem but I am going to add a twist. I have been a single mother twice now. I have 2 boys, one just turned 28 and the other is 14. I cannot tell you how many birthdays I have had ruined because neither of them ever acknowledge them. My oldest son is the worst, and like someone in the previous thread said "there must be underlying issues". I'm guessing that there is but heck if I can get him to talk about anything to resolve them. And the hard part is his birthday is March 15th, mine is March 24th so I go out of my way to give him a nice birthday just 2 weeks prior to mine! Then mine comes along and it's "I'm too busy, I have something else I'm doing, etc". Then I get all hurt and mad and at the same time my youngest son I give hints its going to be my birthday and reminders, guilt trips, nagging and just like his brother, he forgets anyway then gets defensive about it. His birthday is in May and I am darned tempted to "forget" his so he can see how it feels. Then I feel like a shrew and forget about it all by his birthday, and give him a nice birthday as I always do. Then the next year it all goes around again. And it's the same thing on Mothers Day. I'm out of ideas. Do I just finally just give up and stop celebrating?