Ok so here we go. Almost 2 years ago I made this fake profile of a guy on a social media site. The profile is long gone now, but I have created new ways to talk to the people I've grown very close to i.e. Texting, Calling, Kik, and other social apps.

Im an 18 year old female and I'm in college now and I have a boyfriend that I have been with for 3 years now. I once believed we had the perfect relationship but ever since we got back together after our emotional break up, we haven't ever really been the same. A big part of the reason why is because after we broke up I began using my fake persona(Sean) a lot more and I'm constantly carrying it out 24 hours a day.

Sean(me) has a girlfriend that he's known for over a year and been in a relationship with for 3 months now and its getting way to serious. The reason I made a fake profile of a guy is because the last one I made of a girl I began to get attached to this guy and it ended very badly. I know should not be making fake profiles at all but that's another issue for another time. But I figured if I make one of a guy, I won't get emotionally attached to another girl but I was wrong. I have developed really strong feelings for this girl and even sent her things in the mail for Valentines day. She has also developed strong feelings for Sean(me).

She told both her family and friends about Sean and without my knowledge begged her parents to begin saving money so she could buy a plane ticket to see Sean this summer, just two months away.

What am I supposed to do?? I just recently told her not to come but I can't continue this. Im seriously messing with peoples lives here. She tells me things like "i love you, i dont what i would do without you." " you mean everything to me and i never wanna lose you." "12.10.12 forever baby".

Im spending so much time talking to her everyday, all day, and staying on the phone all night until we fall asleep that I don't have enough time for my boyfriend. He lives about 3 hours from me now that I'm in college and on video chat he often complains about me constantly texting while were talking and constantly accusing me if not caring about our relationship anymore. Were gradually getting worse and worse and I really don't want to lose him again. Hes the one I feel like I could spend the rest of my life with. We've been through a lot together and I don't want something fake getting in the way of something real.

How should I end Sean? Do I just tell her the truth? Do I just find a reason to break up with her? Or should I just disappear? Also, do I tell my boyfriend this? How do I explain to him what's been wrong with me? I intend to seek professional help but my therapy session is two weeks away and I really need help now.

How do you manage phone calls with her? Doesn't she realize you are female?

I wonder how you talk to her on the phone if you're pretending to be a guy...

But anyway, yeah, nice job. Now you just messed up someone's life all to satisfy yourself.

What can you do? You have to be honest and tell this poor girl that you have some deep seated issues and have been lying to her with no thoughts about how this would affect her life. You have to be honest and tell her that you were only thinking about yourself in all of this.

Man, I just have no idea what makes people do things like this... no thought whatsoever to how anything will affect someone else.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

How do you manage phone calls with her? Doesn't she realize you are female?

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I've been practicing that voice for almost 2 years now

This sounds very similar to the Manti te'o /Ronaiah Tuiasosopo incident in the news lately. Why don't you Google this and see how far it went and how many innocent people were hurt.

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Originally Posted by Simone21295

i've been practicing that voice for almost 2 years now

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Can you get an emergency appointment with your therapist?

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Originally Posted by odinn7

I wonder how you talk to her on the phone if you're pretending to be a guy.....

But anyway, yeah, nice job. Now you just messed up someone's life all to satisfy yourself.

What can you do? You have to be honest and tell this poor girl that you have some deep seated issues and have been lying to her with no thoughts about how this would affect her life. You have to be honest and tell her that you were only thinking about yourself in all of this.

Man, I just have no idea what makes people do things like this...no thought whatsoever to how anything will affect someone else.

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And what should I tell my boyfriend?

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Originally Posted by Simone21295

And what should I tell my boyfriend?

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The truth.

You tell him that you have been cheating on him with a girl.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Can you get an emergency appointment with your therapist?

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I'm not sure. Its just a free service provided by my school

It's such a shame :(. You've hurt your boyfriend and the young lady.

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Originally Posted by Simone21295

im not sure. its just a free service provided by my school

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If you explain it's an emergency, they will make room for you.

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Originally Posted by J_9

You tell him that you have been cheating on him with a girl.

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But I have no idea how's he's going to react to that

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Originally Posted by Simone21295

but i have no idea hows he's gonna react to that

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Now is not the time to figure that out. You owe him the truth.

Oh, I know how he will react. He will be angry and break up with you. He may even spread some rumors. However, for 2 years now you have been lying to him and cheating on him.

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Oh, I know how he will react. He will be angry and break up with you. He may even spread some rumors. However, for 2 years now you have been lying to him and cheating on him.

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Now, I know for sure I can never tell him

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now, i know for sure i can never tell him

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And you will be able to carry on with that big, fat lie sitting there nestled in between you? The proverbial elephant in the room?

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And you will be able to carry on with that big, fat lie sitting there nestled in between you? the proverbial elephant in the room?

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I'm hoping once I get rid of sean we will go back to how we were and I can forget all the people, lose all the feeling, and forget this ever happened

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im hoping once i get rid of sean we will go back to how we were and I can forget all the people, lose all the feeling, and forget this ever happened

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What if this girl says she will hurt herself or even commit suicide if "Sean" leaves her?

So you're a liar, you're a cheat, and you're not a nice person. Now you're planning on not telling your boyfriend because he could break up with you? So again you're only thinking about yourself. Have you learned nothing from all of this? It doesn't seem you have.

You deserve to have your boyfriend break up with you, you deserve to feel the same pain you will be inflicting on this girl once she finds out she fell in love with someone that doesn't even exist. You actually deserve a lot worse than anything that will likely happen to you if you tell the truth.

You did a horrible thing, the least you can do now is be honest about it with everyone, and face the consequences of your actions. You deserve whatever comes your way.