Hi, my girlfriend and I have been dating for two years, and lost our virginities to each other during that time. She recently opened up to me and said that she only feels pressure during intercourse, not pleasure. Just for clarification, I'm twenty and she's 19. Is there any advice that would help us get through this positively? I hate not being able to please her, even though she says her vagina is just "messed up".

There are many factors for pleasureless sex for some women --- sometimes it can be not enough foreplay; no stimulation to the clitoris; some women just cannot orgasm from penetration alone and need clitoris stimulation in order to achieve climax; sometimes some women are emotionally shut down and it also shuts down the arousal response; sometimes some sexual positions are not satisfactory and need to figure out which position arouses her the most; some young women are inexperienced and need a while to figure out what their erotic zones are; sometimes hypothyroidism can decrease the libido; these are just a few examples of pleasureless sex. Take time to find out what makes her feel comfortable and relaxed... be a bit more experimental with variety of things --- best wishes.