Hey guys! I am really new to this so please bare with me! I have been going out with someone for about three months... I know that it isn't a really long time in the grand scheme of things but those months were sooo intense and believe it or not, I fell for him hook line and sinker. Just a week ago we broke up. It all happened because I felt that he was becoming cold towards me and I confronted him about it then he dumped me. I am 30 years old with a child and I know feeling like this is childish but I can't seem to help it. I have seriously fallen for him. He actually made me feel things that I hadn't felt in a very long time and to have that taken away like that is heartbreaking. My other ex... well my child's father, used to be a compulsive liar who dealt in mind games so for me to finally meet the man of my dreams was like I had struck gold. It has been a week since we spoke and it is clear that he isn't as bothered by the break up as I am. Because if he was he would have contacted me in some way by now. Like I said, I am fully aware of how stupid I sound right now but I really can't help it. I really want him back. I should have kept my mouth shut and I would not be in this position now. I really wish that I could turn back the clock but I know I can't.

It is Perfect that you broke up with him.
Sorry if I am too harsh, but listen to my opinion.

I am guessing that this is the first time you two are braking up, that is all right Miss Magon38. Breaking up is only a period in your relationship, and that will either bring you closer to him or will maybe brake you two further apart.
If you two somehow get back together you could get even stronger than before,I mean your relationship with him, but if things remain as they are at this point than just move on.
I believe that you are in a fine position, I mean you are now apart from your first husband, which he created problems for you, you also get to keep your child, I thing you are in a good position if your former boyfriend returns or not.
No worries if you move on with seasons, and be positive, time will not forget you.

You felt that he was becoming cold - he probably was, and the slightest confrontation would have sent him away. You can't blame yourself for what you said or did. You were totally in love and he wasn't, not in the sense of weathering any storm. So if it hadn't happened last week, it would have happened next week, or next month... and you would just have more painful memories.
Of course we don't know him or anything about him. Maybe he drifts in and out of relationships easily, maybe he doesn't. Maybe he's on the rebound. You know more than we do! If you want to talk about it, feel free. It won't bring him back but you can get it out.

Don't forget: when someone's passions cool down, and you start feeling unloved, don't tell people how wonderful it was, because it wasn't - not when it ended. Don't be in love with a memory that can never be the same again.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

You felt that he was becoming cold - he probably was, and the slightest confrontation would have sent him away. You can't blame yourself for what you said or did. You were totally in love and he wasn't, not in the sense of weathering any storm. So if it hadn't happened last week, it would have happened next week, or next month... and you would just have more painful memories.
Of course we don't know him or anything about him. Maybe he drifts in and out of relationships easily, maybe he doesn't. Maybe he's on the rebound. You know more than we do! If you want to talk about it, feel free. It won't bring him back but you can get it out.

Don't forget: when someone's passions cool down, and you start feeling unloved, don't tell people how wonderful it was, because it wasn't - not when it ended. Don't be in love with a memory that can never be the same again.

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Are you inferring to me?
Well, yes I have to be honest and agree with you,I was inconsiderate, and that is why I apologized in the beginning.

I think you should just take a few moments to relax. I've been there and sometimes when a guy goes cold it's because he's trying to process his feelings and emotions without sharing them with you. He wants to appear to be the man and of he shows vulnerability, then he in his mind, he thinks he is not being the man. TRUST ME... men have egos and pride. As women, we should give them their space and relax. If the bond is strong, you guys will get back together. Don't nag him or text him sounding pitiful and whiney. Stand strong. Also, find things to do in this moment to take your mind off him and keep busy. Then he'll be back around.