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Boot camps for 7 yr old girls?

I have a 7 years old daughter I adopted, she came to my home straight from the hospital. She lies and steals all sorts of things, from family, friends and public places she is also is a bully to people who are weaker then her. She has been to a psychiatrist they said to seek help from a therapist, and the therapist says she's a sociopath, that it could be genetics. She don't take any response ability for her actions makes it out to be everyone's fault but her own. She screams and cries when its time for discipline and acts like if were killing her. I'm looking for a boot camp because I am all out of options and don't know what else to do. For me and her at this point is our last option. Can anyone help!

Help with what, finding a boot camp that will accept a 7 year old child that's been diagnosed as a sociopath?

You've had her since birth. Do you have other children? Have you talked to a therapist as well, to make sure this is entirely the child's issue?

It's not common for a child of 7 to be diagnosed as a sociopath. How many times has she seen this therapist? What has the therapist recommended? Did the therapist suggest boot camp? Because that's as odd as diagnosing a 7 year old as a sociopath.

How is her behavior at school? Does she exhibit these behaviors there?

Help with finding a boot camp. Yes I have talked with the therapist about it she also feel that its getting to that point.

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Originally Posted by betty70

help with finding a boot camp. yes i have talked with the therapist about it she also feel that its getting to that point.

How long as she been in therapy? Who diagnosed her as a sociopath? How does the therapist think that sending a sociopath to boot camp will help?

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Originally Posted by Alty

Help with what, finding a boot camp that will accept a 7 year old child that's been diagnosed as a sociopath?

You've had her since birth. Do you have other children? Have you talked to a therapist as well, to make sure this is entirely the childs issue?

It's not common for a child of 7 to be diagnosed as a sociopath. How many times has she seen this therapist? What has the therapist recommended? Did the therapist suggest boot camp? Because that's as odd as diagnosing a 7 year old as a sociopath.

Yes I do have other children a 25,22,and a 16 year old

http://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&rct=j&...fh8AyektenSfEA

I would suggest that you read the above link. Your case sounds very similar.

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Originally Posted by betty70

help with finding a boot camp. yes i have talked with the therapist about it she also feel that its getting to that point.

Can you help by answering my questions about school?

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Originally Posted by Alty

http://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&rct=j&...fh8AyektenSfEA

I would suggest that you read the above link. Your case sounds very similar.

I don't want to give my baby back like what they did in the link you sent me. What I need help with is the discipline. Almost anything you do as a parent can be viewed as abuse these days. So when all the book discipline, doctors, therapist and behavior school don't work then what do you do!

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Originally Posted by betty70

I don't want to give my baby back like what they did in the link you sent me. What I need help with is the discipline. Almost anything you do as a parent can be viewed as abuse these days. So when all the book discipline, doctors, therapist and behavior school don't work then what do you do!

First I would find a therapist that can actually help you, instead of labeling a 7 year old as a sociopath. Therapists aren't even trained to offer a diagnosis. I would definitely find a therapist that does what he/she is paid to do, and not something they're not even trained to do.

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Can you help by answering my questions about school?

Sorry!I'm Learning the computer. I thought I did? Yes in school she has stolen 10 juices in one day also eye glasses from a girl.

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Sorry!I'm Learning the computer. I thought I did? Yes in school she has stolen 10 juices in one day also eye glasses from a girl.

And what has been done about it? Is the teacher handling the discipline or principal?

What has been the family situation for her since you brought her home? -- father? Sibs? Accidents she has been in or has had? How old was she when she began acting out?

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And what has been done about it? Is the teacher handling the discipline or principal?

When I found out what she did the next day I went and spoke with the teacher. I told her that I was going to make my daughter earn money to buy the juice so she can return it to the class and I asked if she could talk to her about not doing it again. The teachers response was don't worry about it and that my daughter did not have to bring it in.

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Originally Posted by betty70

When i found out what she did the next day i went and spoke with the teacher. I told her that I was going to make my daughter earn money to buy the juice so she can return it to the class and I asked if she could talk to her about not doing it again. the teachers response was don't worry about it and that my daughter did not have to bring it in.

That and the glasses situation are the only behavior issues this year at school?

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What has been the family situation for her since you brought her home? -- father? sibs? accidents she has been in or has had? How old was she when she began acting out?

I was a first time foster parent at the time she came to me. She was and still very loved. She started acting out before she could even walk. She would get angry and bang her head. We had her evaluated for fetal alcohol syndrome when she was about 2 and a half years old. The report stated she hand facial no signs at this time and as per the behavior it was to early to be certain.
She received early childhood intervention. As time went by I knew something with my baby was not right, things got worse to the point I threaten DYFS to give me part A of the adoption paper. Which I had never received or read trusting that her caseworker was reading me everything that was in the papers. When I finally was able to read them I found that her mother was not only drinking alcohol but was also using crack, cocaine,marijuana on a daily basis. Even if I had known this information I would have still adopted her but I also would have been able to get her help when she was infant.

Has she met her developmental stages with walking and talking and other things they do as they mature? Does she learn easily?

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Behavior Problems

Your child is 7, and you shouldn't give up this soon. Keep looking for answers, change doctors, or therapist, but don't give up.

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Has she met her developmental stages with walking and talking and other things they do as they mature? Does she learn easily?

Yes developmental mile stones were met. She has many many fears while growing like did not like water,grass,sand,and all children cry when parents leave to a store but she was server then the average child. She also never wanted any one near me or her. She would push them away. Even today she has no friends real friends in school, girl scouts or when she was in summer day camp.

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Behavior problems in children - Symptom Checker - check medical symptoms at WrongDiagnosis

http://ezinearticles.com/?Behavior-P...ren&id=2378852

Behavior Problems

Your child is 7, and you shouldn't give up this soon. Keep looking for answers, change doctors, or therapist, but don't give up.

I'm not giving up, that will never happen but also am preparing at this time for the worst being that Im out of disciplining actions. The only ones I have left she and others may not feel is appropriate. Like trying to take to the local police station to see if they can now leave her in a jail cell for a half hour being that since the last time the police talked to her has not helped her to stop.

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Yes developmental mile stones were met. She has many many fears while growing like did not like water,grass,sand,and all children cry when parents leave to a store but she was server then the average child. she also never wanted any one near me or her. she would push them away. Even today she has no friends real friends in school, girl scouts or when she was in summer day camp.

Has autism/Asperger's been considered as a diagnosis?