My friend Alyssa cuts. She's been talking about committing suicide for over a year now, and she's tried to do it twice. Whenever I try to help her she lashes back. I'm really worried because she's my BFF and I love her too much. Please help.
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My friend Alyssa cuts. She's been talking about committing suicide for over a year now, and she's tried to do it twice. Whenever I try to help her she lashes back. I'm really worried because she's my BFF and I love her too much. Please help.
How old is she, and how old are you?
If young and still at home, you should tell her parents, even if she dumps you as BFF.
Do you realize how unfair she's being to you, telling you yet yelling at you? You can't win.
She needs to know this. You need to tell her parents in front of her. When she does her final lashing out, turn around and walk out the door.
You have your own peace of mind to worry about too, even if she needs more help than you. There's a limit. She's using you to take all the abuse the conflict in her mind is causing her, and she will continue to do so if you let her. You aren't doing her any favors this way. She won't understand until later, so don't even try to explain now.
If she is over 18 and on her own, you have to do all this without parents.
Immediately talk to her parents about this, surely they will do counselling and any other help. No matter how old you are, this should be known to her family.
You have 2 good anwers so far. If under 18, tell her parents, and let them handle it.
If over 18, then there really isn't anything you can do, if she doesn't want help. You could go to the Police, but they probably can't do anything either.
If she doesn't want counseling, then please stop making it harder for yourself. I do wish you good luck.
You should definitely tell her parents and her family. Talk some sense in to her...
Or trycounselling... and if that doesn't work get someone to talk to her. Someone that really understands her.
You're her friend I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
Lead the life that will make you kindly and friendly to everyone about you, and you will be surprised what a happy life you will lead.
Life is too short to be anything but happy
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