I'm new... my first question. I hope you can help. Here's my situation:
When I was growing up, my parents used to send me and my siblings to visit our long distance cousins for about a week almost every summer. There is one cousin who was just horrible. She threw tantrums, always wanted to physically fight, always wanted what someone else had and would steal it if she could, cursed out her parents etc. In our adult years, we barely keep in touch except when we see each other at major family events (weddings, funerals, etc.). And the last few times that I've seen her, she still displays the bratty behavior she had growing up. She is extremely envious of others. She has announced (no invitation was extended to her) that she wants to move in with one of our cousins who happens to have an extremely successful career. It sounds to me that she wants to mooch off his success. She has called other cousins randomly to borrow money. At family functions, she dumps her 5 year old daughter (just as bratty as her mother was) off on one of us and disappears. She's even mentioned a few years ago that she would like to send her daughter out to spend a whole summer with me and my husband. We don't even have kids yet! Who would she play with?
It's been over a year since I've seen or even spoken to her and all of a sudden I get an email saying she wants visit me for a weekend with her daughter. I want nothing to do with it. Based on her history, I can see her overstaying her welcome, complaining about how expensive the flight was in order to get pity money, envying and begging me for something in my house and just being downright unpleasant company.
Basically, how do I pleasantly say "I don't want you to visit, but see you at the next major family function"?