Power source coming to light then down to 3way switch from there to another 3way switch up to another light I would like both switches too control both lights from either switch

Only way to do that is to dispense with the cable between the second switch and the second light and run a cable between the first light and the second light.

Well I probably shouldn't say the only way. You could run 3-conductor cable from source light to first switch, 4-conductor between switches and the 2-conductor to second light. Finding 4-conductor cable (cut to length) will probably not be convenient.