My husband of 45 years passed away 6 years ago and although he was 20 years older we had a loving relationship. I nursed him for the last 2 years. The nightmares that I have are always my husband with another woman - the first one right after he died - he was in a helicopter looking down and laughing at me with 2 women in the copter. I feel so alone not wanting to discuss this with family.

May be it's not about your late husband at all. It's about your emotional discharge. You should try to introspect your own emotions and desires. Your late husband is very well, where he is now, you see him laughing and good. It's you who need to take care of self and move on. If you will solve emotional puzzle in your own life, the nightmares will stop.

Your husband wants you to go to bed with two men.

Your imagination is the source of your dreams and you can interpret them any way you want.

Your husband wants you to go on a helicopter ride with two women because your husband wants you to go to bed with women.

Your husbands is happy and the two women are the pilots.

Your husband didn't get his 72 virgins only two virgins, or two nonvirgins, or two lesbians. Make up your own story and interpretation. Your husband is dead and never to be seen alive again or heard from again. Soldier on...

Go back to sleep and come with a more favorable dream or less favorable dream depending on the mood you are feeling.

My advice is don't tell anyone and forget about the dream. Dreams are to be forgotten if unpleasant and shared if they are pleasant.

Subject to your interpretation of course, you are the master of your dream interpretation, forget negative interpretations and embrace positive interpretations.

Get on with your life and make happiness.

Dreams are just firings of the brain while we are asleep. They have no meaning or portent. No one really knows why we have them, although there are plenty of theories about sorting out our lives, and we do know that when people are deprived of dreams, they go crazy.

A therapist will tell you that your dreams mean what they mean to YOU and no one else. There could have been one tiny little comment he made in those 45 years that set off this idea of laughing at you with another woman - maybe you were watching a movie together, or the news, or someone told a joke.

My sister and I get along really well, but when I was in my early teens and she was in her late teens, I had several nightmares about finding her in a bathtub with her arms and legs worn away. All because she spent a really long time in the shower?? That's all I can think of. Let us know if there is something about your life that might be similar.